Should i admit my intrusive thoughts?

@ROCDmensch I just feel like im emotionally cheating if im thinking about another girl i feel horrible and i dont want to think about it but why does my brain think about it if i dont want it?

@TDR 17 Because it's an intrusive thought. An intrusive can be about anything, also very disturbing things, but it has no deeper meaning. But you attach meaning to it, you give it attention due to your moral standards. You think "I would be a horrible person if I would actually do that. I don't want to think that, that's so horrible ...". And that's the point where your brain gets hooked to the thought. If you educate yourself on the processes behind OCD it helps with recovery. The concept of emotional cheating is a societal one. Watch the video I send you to understand what I mean. If I tell you "don't think about a blue elephant!", You probably will think about it. That's how our brain works, the part that is "ancient" closer to instincts of animals. The key is to build resilience towards those thoughts and an attitude of "so be it". Then the thought loses its power. The best technique is erp. Right now, if you give into your compulsions you will only make things harder for you

@ROCDmensch I just constantly feel like I’m in self destruct mode in my relationship and everything i think is going to ruin it and because i gave into my compulsion before and admitted it and had a bad reaction it just makes me feel even more guilty over having these thoughts, it also doesn’t help that I have a fear of cheating and have intrusive visuals that make me think that i have cheated when drunk when the evidence suggests against it, but i still can’t believe the rational side of things and im stuck at the moment

@TDR 17 I get how you feel. I have been there. But I can tell you that you won't break the cycle of constant guilt by adding more guilt onto it. You need a voice of self compassion. Are you in therapy?

@ROCDmensch Yes i am in therapy at the moment but i am struggling with ERP and believing my thoughts, like i have a vision of somebody in my head that i think ive only seen pictures of on instagram and its placing them in the vision i have of me kissing somebody in a club and it just confuses me like the evidence says i never did it and its against my morals but idk how i can visualise something like that without it being real idk how a brain can think that

@TDR 17 Sounds to me like you ruminate a lot and try to figure this out. The thing is that you won't gain 100% certainty on this. Is that sth you work on in therapy?

@ROCDmensch Ive been ruminating about this a-lot for a month and every week its a different girl in my visions ones i haven’t even met and i just don’t know how to handle it idk why its people i haven’t met and idek if this one i have even seen her instagram and its a struggle, but yes i am working in this in therapy

@ROCDmensch I’m new to this app so I’m not sure exactly how it works but could you possibly send me this video too?

@Lindsay Marie Can you not access the link I send in the chat :)?

@ROCDmensch Oh yes I can, my bad I thought it was a different video that you sent him lol. Thank you for this.

@ROCDmensch I have watched the video very helpful thankyou👍

@bremoe Is one of your current obsessions cheating OCD?

Hey, the link to the video is in my comment abouve. Take care :)