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- winter16
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- Logan123Logan123
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You can tell if you like it. I know it sounds blunt - but myself im gay. And I've had OCD where I think I'm straight - but at the end of the day if I were straight then I would be with a woman? I'm so comfortable with it now that I even tell me my friends that maybe one day I will be with a woman - but by accepting it and not fighting the thought I realise there is no attraction there. Its so difficult when you are in that anxious stage of mind I know! But if you allow yourself to give in to the thoughts and accept maybe you are bisexual or gay - I think you'll find that when it comes to it, you probably wont be. Nature is nature and even OCD cant make you feel love for someone you dont. I hope this helps :) It's the same with Trans OCD - I almost had bad anxiety over it but after I realised that trans people like being trans, they just fight societies view on it. Same with being gay - the only thing that stopped me from coming out was what other people would think - for me accepting myself was easier.
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- blindpeachblindpeach
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@logan123 man this line was great “even ocd can’t make you feel love for someone you don’t.” For me, it helps to put things in context. For example, on Monday I was out with friends and found myself super attracted to a woman at the bar we were at. Didn’t even think anything of it. But, when I smoked with my buddy Friday night, I bugged out on whether or not I could be attracted to him. Was I? Am I? I was just resisting and combating the thoughts of my sexuality in that moment ya know? It was that battle with my thoughts that tripped me out...not the actual attraction/or not to my male friend. It’s hard in the moment but honestly mindfulness meditation does wonders for compartmentalizing your thoughts.
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- Logan123Logan123
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@blindpeach Thanks dude! Yeah exactly you cracked it there. OCD is the king of overthinking overthinking? I find the more open I am to being free and not caring the more defined I actually become. E.g yesterday I was with a quite androgynous female. She was coming on to me - I'm gay so I wouldn't do anything - but I started to question whether I would and if i found her attractive. But I allowed myself to relax and allowed myself to accept her beauty but realised I'm really not attracted Haha. Once you stop fighting you can see much clearer.
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- totalocdfoshototalocdfosho
- Date posted
- 4y ago
can ocd make you feel like you want something yet you don’t?
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- Logan123Logan123
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yep - classic OCD
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- Ocd Won’t be...
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Can someone explain to me the difference between HOCD and questioning your sexuality? I see several posts regarding fears about having romantic feelings towards the same sex and I wonder if that really means someone is gay and afraid to admit it to themselves? I’m not asking to be offensive, I really just don’t understand that form of OCD.
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- person1
- Date posted
- 5y ago
This may sound like a stupid question... but what is the difference between having hocd and actually being gay, but you’re in denial. I used to freak out and worry constantly if I was gay, but it’s been a few years now and I just feel like what if I am gay. I don’t really freak out, but my family is very traditional.
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- mariaxx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’m so exhausted. Been having HOCD since May & had it once before when I was 15 - both times began as me genuinely thinking I was questioning my sexuality, then it became obsessive and that’s when I landed on HOCD. It was more like HOCD that actually questioning. But I will say I do find women attractive, and have always watched lesbian porn & in my mind I guess I do find women’s body’s somewhat sexually attractive. This being said - I have always had boyfriends, always fell for boys and not once have I ever been genuinely interested in a girl or fallen for one. I’m 20 too, so it’s not like i’m only 14. In very open about sexuality and accept everything and everyone, so the idea of being lesbian or bi isn’t alien to me. Some of my friends are gay and lesbian . Earlier this summer I even started coming out to people as maybe being bi, and i was almost pushing that label onto myself to try and accept myself - but it still didn’t feel right and I am still unsure and uncertain. Just want some advice - is this similar to other people’s stories ? Not looking for reassurance, just genuinely wondering wether it is HOCD or maybe I am just abit gay hahaha (which would be okay, just doesn’t really feel right)
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