- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hello, i know how it feels i did this al the time when i was younger. And i still have the urge to do this to my boyfriend. Maybe you can try to practise not to tell everything.. like you tell one thing en keep one thing to yourself.. the next day it will feel less urgent to tell and so on it will become less and less. Maybe that will help you.. i know it helped me. I forgot a lot of things over time.. ??? it will be oke!
I am literally going through this right now. I’m new to the app, and I’m amazed to see how similar a lot of our problems are. I do this. It’s reassurance. It’s also almost a mechanism to ensure that they are helping you make the decision, so you don’t have the responsibility of what you do. But that’s Bc you feel what you do deserves punishing. It doesn’t!
Be kind to yourself. It’s hard to handle a lot of stress and rapid changes when you have ocd. Start developing healthy longterm habits to cope with stress. It takes baby steps to get to the point where you’re managing ocd and are more in control of needing to confess to reduce stress. Exercising and good nutrition can make it easier. Try chewing gum instead of wine and cigarettes. It seems to help me. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4450283/
Thank you ?? I’m 26 now and have gone through years of therapy and progress and was living my life, but my traumatic breakup and getting fired really bought me back to square one. I was living in Dubai and weaned off my meds only to come back to New York working part time as a cashier waiting for my full time legal job to start. I don’t want to live my life on meds but I really can’t function without numbing my mind somehow.
Ever since my OCD started when I was 14 (I’m 26 now), I get the biggest relief from confessing to my mother. It is getting harder as the years pass to resist the urge. I always feel like confessing all of my past mistakes and sins, even though a lot of it will upset her. But I always get a wave of calm across my body every time I get reassurance or a reaction from her. Idk why at 26 I feel guilty not telling my mom everything. I don’t even know anymore when it is appropriate to vent to her like a daughter and when it’s my OCD telling me to seek reassurance for the wrong reasons. I think of my past mistakes and feel so guilty around my mother.
Ugh some days I’m 100% sure I did it….others im 80% then It’s 50% then it’s 20%…then it’s back to 100% the urge to confess is so huge I can’t just sit with it….I kinda told my mom somewhat….and she didn’t wanna hear because she knows about confessing with ocd and that people shouldn’t give in to it or give reassurance but I really think I did this awful thing….my brain is convinced I need to type of consequence….as if having ocd isn’t a bad thing already 😒
Please , please… someone give me some advice who is or has been in similar situation?? I need to stop confessing to my partner. I know it hurts him, he said he knows I cannot control that I have a mental illness, or that I have these thoughts in my head but not to put them in his head, he doesn’t want to think about them which is understandable it’s not just random thoughts it’s intrusive thoughts revolved around ROCD, SOCD mostly are my ocd themes that I confess to him… we have spilt up over this before and he gave me another chance and just continues to do that, because I just keep doing it, I know what I’m doing, I know it’s wrong, but the anxiety ocd gives me nothing else will calm me until I confess either to him or if it’s not him it’s my mum, either way I’m still confessing the difference is it doesn’t hurt my mum when I confess, she can handle it, my partner cannot. I hate myself for doing this, I don’t know how to get out of the OCD haze… best way I can describe when I feel anxious over ocd is a feeling of DOOM. 😔😭 please pray for me… please pray for my partner, my daughter, mother, everyone who is affected because of my mental illness… 🤎
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