Past Realationships

At the moment i am in a very happy relationship with my girlfriend, she is the love of my life and i wouldn’t swap her for anyone, but does anyone else get anxiety over past relationships to come back and haunt u, I’ve never really done any bad in the past at all but i feel like my past relationships are gonna come back and haunt me one day and i get a lot of anxiety from it as all i want to do is focus on my current partner but they keep coming up and because i try not to think of them it makes it worse

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Date posted: 1y

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TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@book reader Get this feeling totally mu OCD just seems to attack my girlfriend all the time by picking up every little thing i do as a mistake and something i have yo admit and, u cant hide anything from your girlfriend because thats being immoral

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@book reader My girlfriend knows i have OCD and i struggle with it but she has been cheated on in the past so she struggles with insecurities and sometimes details set her off so i refrain from telling her every details as it gets to her sometimes

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TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 Its a constant fear sometimes that someone is out to get me or make up something about me and ruin my current relationship, but aswell it makes me double think everything in the past like when looking at a picture or something on instagram of one of my exes i worry that im being immoral

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 Yea i get that too, i felt guilty even though i went on their profile just before i blocked them and i feel so guilty for it, and i also have a problem with telling my girlfriend too much info that i shouldn’t and don’t need to but i feel guilty keeping it too myself, and it eats me up from the inside i feel like i need to tell her, if i masterbated over someone, or if i looked at an account, or if i messaged a girl that i know (not in a flirty way, i was just finding reassurance and said i had a girlfriend) i feel so guilty,

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 Yea like confessing everything is a feeling that comes as a compulsion and i feel like i cant keep anything a secret but i even admit things that i didnt mean in a bad way and my girlfriend dosnt need to know about and tell her and she gets really hurt, but sometimes i struggle to differentiate what should i admit and what is ocd, and

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 What method do u use in ERP? When thoughts questioning weather u are a moral person or not come up?

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 Thankyou for this advice its so handy and very helpful as i can see what other people are doing and we all find it hard and a struggle but we all agree that we shouldnt confess

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 Thanks man and i get u have been through a very rough time with it that whole thing where u think u can get recognised or something scares me as i have been suffering with weather i cheated aswell on my girlfriend as a false memory and im scared to go out anywhere

TDR 17

Date posted: 1y

@FinneganFox90 Yea and u are constantly gazing at other people to see if u know them or they know u, and if someone looks at u, u think they know u from somewhere? I get this mainly with girls with my cheating OCD, and i ending thinking about other girls a lot and my exes and i dont like thinking about them and i dont want them in my head at all but they allways come back into my brain and it gives me anxiety why i cant get rid of them

Parker_b

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 20w

Retroactive jealousy/relationship ocd

I’m gonna try to make this make sense, and any support or advice would be great. I have a beautiful girlfriend, who I’ve been dating off and on for a year. We were really rocky but got our shit figured out 4 months ago and have been strong since. I truly love this girl more than I’ve loved anyone. And I know based off the sheer amount of ocd that has come up on our relationship, that she means a lot to me. Me and her were in a friend group in 2022 and we never liked each other. However she had a sexual relationship with one of my old friends. Fast forward to now I haven’t talked to him in a long time and I don’t see it as an issue. However… I keep having this vivid flashback to him touching her some kinda way in 2022. I can’t remember exactly what happened or the details but it’s running through my head. I guess this is retroactive jealousy but it’s really almost hurting my feelings. I wish it would stop but I know ocd doesn’t work that way. I just wanna be happy with my girl and not upset at her past experiences

Relationship OCD

Db99

Date posted: 17w

Past haunting you?

With real event OCD, I don’t know if any of you feel this way, but do you ever feel that the past event(s) that you ruminate about or constantly obsess about are gonna come up in your future and just absolutely ruin you, that’s how I’ve been feeling for months, it just feels like impending doom, and I hate having to even think that my future would be ruined by what I did as a teenager, and I did some dumb things, that I regret so deeply, I just can’t stop thinking about that.

M_8

Date posted: 12w

ROCD- help please!

My ex boyfriend broke up with me last summer and it was really rough on me even thought we only dated for a little while. He treated me terribly but I guess I wanted it to work. However during the fall I was healing well and met my current boyfriend. I knew him as a kid and we reconnected and started dating. It’s the most WONDERFUL relationship ever and I love him so much. However for the past couple months, on and off, I have been obsessively thinking about my ex, to the point of feeling so sick to my stomach. Just the thought will do it. I have been stopping myself from checking his instagram because that just makes it worse. I do not want me ex back at all and I am so happy now. I recognize these thoughts as intrusive and hurtful. I just want them to stop and be in the moment. Has anyone had a similar experience? What did u do? Also, I want to tell my boyfriend about this but I am unsure on how to do so.

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