quentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Allow the sensations to happen. Don’t question them or compare. Accept that groinal responses can happen and that you don’t need to put meaning into them.
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thank you. What are you supposed to use? Porn? YouTube? This Is for HOCD...
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hmmm, I’ve read that for HOCD therapists sometimes expose the patient to gay porn and simply tell them to accept whatever reaction they get and not question them. I think it’s best if you work it out with a therapist first so you can create a proper hierarchy for that. I think for now if you are avoiding certain youtube videos, films, tv shows, etc because they trigger you maybe start off with that.
shiv00shiv00
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Just one question i think it is more of a reassurance but will erp make me gay
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Shiv00 - That is definitely a reassurance question lol. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. I know that’s not the answer you wanna hear but you will be able to handle OCD more easily once you accept that uncertainty.
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
So some follow up. I started just looking at guys fitness pages on IG for some makeshift ERP and it feels like my anxiety is going down.. Yes..no duh that guy looks good with his shirt off. But I’m less anxious and my fear seems to be going down. Am I doing it right if I can still tell that I’m not aroused? Or should I try not to think about it at all
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It’s okay to notice you’re not aroused. But if you’re looking at the images just to prove to yourself you won’t get aroused, that’s not ERP, that’s a compulsion. Look at the pages, accept that you may or may not get aroused and keep doing it anyways. Every day. If you get aroused at some point, accept it and brush it off and keep going until you’re bored. Boredom is the ultimate antidote but boredom only comes with time. Loooooots of time.
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ughhhh it all just feels so terrible and dirty smh lol
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Feedback...so I just started googling handsome gay men to help ease my anxiety..and I actually started laughing lol They were trying to pose all sexy and it was Just seemed laughable...face your fears everyone...just do it....
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flippy15
- Date posted
- 24w ago
The phrase I’m gay just keeps popping up
Anyone else will just be doing anything normal and I’m gay comes in? It’s so distressing and I try and say ok sure ocd but the anxiety over takes me and my mind won’t let me believe I’m straight when I am. I love men I’m Not attracted to women but when I ask myself the doubt is for sure there which sounds like Casebook ocd. I’m just sick of this I don’t want to have to laugh at things in my head that don’t make any sense it’s so hard and unfair
King silly
- Date posted
- 14w ago
Bad again
Pocd feels real again and I can’t tell if I’m actually attracted or not. can’t believe it got this bad again. I used to be able to go “no I don’t like that, go away” and now it feels like I do like it and want it, and it’s starting to linger longer so it feels more real. I’m avoiding checking but I’m so scared that what if it’s true. Is it because I have not been doing my exposures? I’m not sure, but every time a 14 year old person comes to my head, I keep hearing something go “they’re attractive” and it sounds like me so I panic, and it makes me even more scared because I’m not feeling bad about it??? I saw some kid at Walmart that had long black hair and my brain kept saying shit and no matter how much I say I don’t feel that way, it won’t shut up, i want to check 1000 times to make sure. But I know it’s not worth it. I’m trying so hard
Mt2019
- Date posted
- 4w ago
Question about HOCD
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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