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- quentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Allow the sensations to happen. Don’t question them or compare. Accept that groinal responses can happen and that you don’t need to put meaning into them.
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- quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thank you. What are you supposed to use? Porn? YouTube? This Is for HOCD...
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hmmm, I’ve read that for HOCD therapists sometimes expose the patient to gay porn and simply tell them to accept whatever reaction they get and not question them. I think it’s best if you work it out with a therapist first so you can create a proper hierarchy for that. I think for now if you are avoiding certain youtube videos, films, tv shows, etc because they trigger you maybe start off with that.
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- shiv00shiv00
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Just one question i think it is more of a reassurance but will erp make me gay
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Shiv00 - That is definitely a reassurance question lol. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. I know that’s not the answer you wanna hear but you will be able to handle OCD more easily once you accept that uncertainty.
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- quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
So some follow up. I started just looking at guys fitness pages on IG for some makeshift ERP and it feels like my anxiety is going down.. Yes..no duh that guy looks good with his shirt off. But I’m less anxious and my fear seems to be going down. Am I doing it right if I can still tell that I’m not aroused? Or should I try not to think about it at all
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- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It’s okay to notice you’re not aroused. But if you’re looking at the images just to prove to yourself you won’t get aroused, that’s not ERP, that’s a compulsion. Look at the pages, accept that you may or may not get aroused and keep doing it anyways. Every day. If you get aroused at some point, accept it and brush it off and keep going until you’re bored. Boredom is the ultimate antidote but boredom only comes with time. Loooooots of time.
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- quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ughhhh it all just feels so terrible and dirty smh lol
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- quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Feedback...so I just started googling handsome gay men to help ease my anxiety..and I actually started laughing lol They were trying to pose all sexy and it was Just seemed laughable...face your fears everyone...just do it....
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- P
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I’m having a really hard time doing any exposures whatsoever. Does anyone have any tips? I have been living with ROCD for 20+ years and only recently got diagnosed and seeing a therapist - so my rituals are pretty deeply ingrained. I see how bad it’s screwing up my life but I feel powerless to stop myself.
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- laura93
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hey! I’m a POCD sufferer and I was wondering if anyone who is doing ERP has any good suggestions for exposure heirarchies that I could take inspiration from? I’m starting CBT soon but I can only get it in a group and I don’t feel super comfortable talking about the details of POCD yet cos it feels really embarrassing. So far I’ve thought of going to the pool/park, or writing down my thoughts and looking at them, but my OCD really goes wild if I try to masturbate or if I feel aroused at all...at the moment I’m avoiding anything like that because it’s so distressing, but is that something I should do exposures for in the future?
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- TonyOCD
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Can anyone relate to having HOCD thlughts (or any form of sexual orientation OCD) and getting aroused by them? I don't mean a groinal response (tingles, twinges, etc.) or arousal-non concordance (when you're groing get's aroused but your mind doesn't), or confusing stress with arousal... I literally mean getting aroused (both mentally and physiologically) by unwanted thoughts in repeated occasions (frequently) when you test yourself? Basically like if it was a sexual fantasy, with the exception that it's a torture that you have found through compulsions. I never wanted to think any of this and I still hate and wouldn't do any of the content of my thoughts. But this happens to me and makes me feel SOOOOO in denial and anxious even though I've never had sex, interest, attraction or desires for a man (or a transexual, which is my other HOCD topic).
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