quentin
- Date posted
- 6y
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
Allow the sensations to happen. Don’t question them or compare. Accept that groinal responses can happen and that you don’t need to put meaning into them.
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 6y
Thank you. What are you supposed to use? Porn? YouTube? This Is for HOCD...
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
Hmmm, I’ve read that for HOCD therapists sometimes expose the patient to gay porn and simply tell them to accept whatever reaction they get and not question them. I think it’s best if you work it out with a therapist first so you can create a proper hierarchy for that. I think for now if you are avoiding certain youtube videos, films, tv shows, etc because they trigger you maybe start off with that.
shiv00shiv00
- Date posted
- 6y
Just one question i think it is more of a reassurance but will erp make me gay
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
Shiv00 - That is definitely a reassurance question lol. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. I know that’s not the answer you wanna hear but you will be able to handle OCD more easily once you accept that uncertainty.
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 6y
So some follow up. I started just looking at guys fitness pages on IG for some makeshift ERP and it feels like my anxiety is going down.. Yes..no duh that guy looks good with his shirt off. But I’m less anxious and my fear seems to be going down. Am I doing it right if I can still tell that I’m not aroused? Or should I try not to think about it at all
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
It’s okay to notice you’re not aroused. But if you’re looking at the images just to prove to yourself you won’t get aroused, that’s not ERP, that’s a compulsion. Look at the pages, accept that you may or may not get aroused and keep doing it anyways. Every day. If you get aroused at some point, accept it and brush it off and keep going until you’re bored. Boredom is the ultimate antidote but boredom only comes with time. Loooooots of time.
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 6y
Ughhhh it all just feels so terrible and dirty smh lol
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 6y
Feedback...so I just started googling handsome gay men to help ease my anxiety..and I actually started laughing lol They were trying to pose all sexy and it was Just seemed laughable...face your fears everyone...just do it....
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geodrimilis
- Date posted
- 22w
How to counter hocd (in my opinion)
Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
Anonymous
- Date posted
- 14w
Any Advice?
Hey everyone, just wanted to post an honest update on where I’m at in my HOCD recovery. Right now, I'm stuck in what feels like a 24/7 spike — nonstop thoughts, intrusive sensations, identity doubts, and hyperfocus. The worst part? It feels real. Like I’ve “lost,” like I’ve accepted it, like I am gay. The thoughts don't feel like anxiety anymore — they feel like truth. I’ve been trying to do ERP, but the spike has been so constant I don’t even have to “do exposures” — the thoughts, feelings, and sensations are just there all day long. It’s like living inside an exposure. And it’s exhausting. BUT — here’s what I’ve been doing (and what I’m sticking to now): I say once: “These thoughts and feelings are welcome to stay for as long as they want.” I let the doubt, the feelings, the hyperfocus exist. I don’t check, test, or analyze — even when it screams at me. I live my life anyway — folding clothes, watching TV, eating, walking — with the storm in my head. Even when it feels 100% real. Even when I’m fully focused on it. I’ve stopped trying to feel better. I’m letting it all burn — and just not fixing it. It doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t feel like progress.
ocdsurviver
- Date posted
- 13w
What is the best way to STARVE OCD?
How can I recover and starve the HOCD. It feels so real since it uses sensations, gronials, urges, past memories etc. it’s so frickin difficult. I just want to recover and be the person I was.
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