Dealing with bad ROCD about upcoming anniversary

Sometimes I get some rOCD around anniversaries/vacations and it really sucks. Last time I was able to tell myself "oh well maybe I dont love my partner. going to have fun on this trip with them regardless." and it honestly really helped. As soon as I wasn't letting the intrusive thoughts take power over me, I was able to have a good time and be present with them! Maybe something like this will work for you too.

You can do this! Ride the wave 🌊 💚

Society tells us many lies and one of them is that we should feel overjoyed at things like anniversaries etc etc it's okay if you're anniversary with your partner doesn't make you feel that way and does nothing for you. Just because one person thinks that something is great doesn't mean that you should too. I personally think that is a massive problem in society and a major pre cursor to mental health problems. Being made to feel that we should feel a certain way about something and if we dont then theres something wrong with us. You have eveet right to like and dislike whatever you like and dislike and should be able to be honeat about that withut being made to feel guilty or that there is something wrong with you for feeling that. As for social media I really dislike it because despite knowing that the majority of what people post on there is just lies or a very small snippet of there lives I couldn't help but think that these people must have really amazing lives which then makes me feel rubbish about my own and how similar to OCD does that sound.....despite knowing that the part of my brain that's telling me to do the compulsions and rituals to keep me safe is a liar I still listen to it

I am a work in progress like everybody else and still learning but I think I am going to start living with the attitude of 'if it's good for me and doesn't fuel my OCD then do it and if it's bad for me and does fuel my OCD then don't do it' As for the thoughts and feelings youre having towards your partner it is possible that you're having them because finishing it is actually the last thing you want to do. One of the hardest things I find with OCD is working out what thoughts are genuine and need listening to and what ones arent. Hope my input helps even if it just a little bit

My rocd seems to flare up more during stress or large events or big changes in routine