When i see couples together, specially people who been together for years i get so triggered and start thinking that can’t be me because i dont see a future with my partner, i want this to stop. Please lord help me. These thoughts are stopping me from going out, making plans, being happy together. We have a vacation next year and im scared to go, because im going to be ruminating and disconnected. I’m scared we move in and i cant control my mind
:( sending hugs your way❤️🫶🏼
@Naty_ Hi can you give me any tips on managing anxiety, i woke up this morning soooo bad. Tried my best not to call my boyfriend, because somehow when he answers and he’s on the phone with me i feel safe. But i felt like something bad was going to happen, my anxiety was strong, i had rocd thoughts as soon as I woke up. And im so tired of overthinking. Im scared because of all of the things I’ve thought about my relationship and my partner, like is it even possible to recover from rocd and live a happy life with my boyfriend?🥺 please pray for me
@Anonimo05 Awwww of course I will pray for you! I suffer from ROCD as well. It’s very very hard, but one thing to understand is that most of these thoughts are intrusive. We need to understand it our own mind playing tricks on us making us feel this way. So becoming aware of that is number 1. Then number 2 is realizing the compulsion is to seek reassurance from our partners. If our partner isn’t showing any physical signs that they don’t want to be with us or something, then we are ok. I know that currently you don’t see a future with your partner and you fear you don’t love him, but deep down you know that you do. I think journaling helps and maybe even explaining a little bit of this to your partner can help.
@Naty_ Thanks, he knows already. I just dont like to say it over and over because i’m afraid he’ll get tired of me etc. But he knows how i feel, and the overthinking. He’s just a bit lost sometimes as to how can it be so strong, like he didn’t know something like that can be possible. But i dont want to bombard him a lot, im already a different person 😞 im not present, or even for intimacy is not the same i dont get excited and most of the time i avoid talking about that, and im not in the mood because in my mind im like whats the point if i dont love him, see a future etc. But i know its all in my head, but how do we snap out of it😪😪😪
@Naty_ And i’m scared of the future because i think that if we move in im going to get these thought’s and wont be able to be happy with him and he doesnt deserve that, and i dont want to be unhappy forever, but i dont want to lose my bf. Please no
I know what you mean 100%. I actually broke up with my partner because he didn’t deserve that. I also didn’t know ROCD was a thing during that time I was with him. It wasn’t until I began to seek therapy that I found out ROCD is a thing. I literally thought I genuinely didn’t like him. I feel bad because I know he did love me, but I couldn’t drag him along whatever I was going through at the time. I wish I could be more of a help. I think therapy could help you since they will be able to give you a different perspective. Also, I was reading that it’s very possible for you to come out of ROCD with him if he continues to be supportive and understanding. It takes time.
@Naty_ Thanks 😪
@Naty_ Do you think you would’ve stayed with him if you knew it was ROCD
@Anonimo05 we were friends before and later on began dating. We are still friends now we only dated for a few months. But thinking about it now.. probably not. I just have a vision of the man I want for my life and he wasn’t it. While we care about each other and he was very understanding about things.. I just knew deep down in my heart he is not who I imagined spending my life with.
@Anonimo05 I’m so sorry I wish I could be more helpful. I know this is extremely hard and I think going through ROCD was a very challenging thing for me and it actually what pushed me to seek professional help.
@Naty_ Did you see a psychiatrist and psychologist?
@Anonimo05 A psychologist who specializes in ocd and anxiety like disorders. I had to do a lot of digging and research with my Insurance 😩 but she has been wonderful so far!
I know I love my fiancé so much. The 5 years we have been together have been the best of my life, yet I am questioning everything all the time. The constant doubts and fears and negative thoughts about him are so loud and so persistent. It feels like this will never end
I just saw my boyfriend, and even though everything was okay on the outside, inside my mind it was a storm. I kept having thoughts like: “You don’t like him.” “You’re not feeling anything.” “You’re pretending.” “You don’t care.” And then, he said something sweet — something that should’ve made me feel happy: “We should marry.” And instead of warmth, I felt anxiety. A pit in my stomach. A voice in my head saying: “You don’t want that.” “You’ll never stay with him.” “If you really loved him, you’d feel joy.” And I hate it. I hate that I’m in this state. I don’t feel connected. I don’t feel clarity. I don’t even know what I feel anymore. I just feel… numb. And the worst part? It feels like I don’t even care. But I know I do. Somewhere, beneath all the noise and panic and obsessive thoughts, I care. I want to feel close to him. I want to stop second-guessing every word, every touch, every thought. This is ROCD. It makes me question everything. It makes me feel like I’m lying — even when I’m not. It steals the moments that should feel warm and turns them into confusion. If anyone else feels this awful mix of numbness, fear, and guilt — please tell me I’m not alone.
Im scared that if I start to think it too much, I will start to believe it, and it becomes my reality. I always have thoughts like, “Do I love him, what if I lose feelings, how longs is this going to last, when will these thoughts finally go away, is he the one for me, is this how love feels like or am I just convincing myself?” I start to search things up to make myself feel better but the longest that works for is a few hours and then that gut wrenching feeling comes back. I love him I’m sure of it, but then why do I feel like this? I know if I didn’t love someone I would let them go and would t even fight for it or try to get better, but for him I’m trying ever second of everyday and sometimes I just feel so hopeless. I can’t afford a therapist and I’m too busy to talk to one. I don’t know what to do or how to feel, sometimes I just feel numb and I hate it, sometimes I feel like crying but can’t, and most the time I don’t feel jealous anymore and that scares me because I’m a jealous person. Then I get thoughts and reminders of my ex. Not in a way that I like them but the hatred and the trauma and pain they left me with. The mental, verbal and physical abuse. Sometimes my current relationship reminds me of him and why I shouldn’t be in one because I always fall into this deep hole that feels impossible to get out of. I just get so scared.
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