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At the end of the day the decision is your own but I do think you should take action against people posting illegal things and definitely ban them and report them. If the people however are just making you uncomfortable then you need to question why you are spending time with them. If you are in control of a server where people are consistently doing things that make you uncomfortable you need to tell them they are making you uncomfortable and if they are really your friends they will respect that and if they don’t respect that then remove them. It is not always easy for us to enforce our boundaries but it is necessary. That’s just my take.

You are seeking reassurance which perpetuates the OCD cycle, but if it offers you temporary relief then I would say you are not the one posting or sharing the content you are worried about and if you don't want that stuff on the server you control then see if there is a way to block it or block the users sharing it or report them. Also establish guidelines as to what is acceptable and what isn't. You can't control what others do so if it causes you much distress maybe its best not to be in charge of the server. And no that's not avoidance that's just relieving yourself of being associated with "idiot" behavior. This will only give you temporary relief at best, please seek professional help for your OCD. Hope this helps for the time being. God bless.