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Boy crazy lesbians don’t exist. They normally pretend they are to try to fit in. People will say that they were, but I don’t buy it at all. That makes absolutely no sense in the slightest. I think they say that to exaggerate their story.
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They pretend to be boy crazy, but I bet your mind is about to say “what if I’ve been pretending to be boy crazy???” And then start obsessing. I don’t mean to give reassurance, but that’s a red flag of OCD.
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You reassured yourself in this comment too, you might’ve not caught it. Remember reassurance lasts temporarily, I could say that your not this or that a billion times, yet you’ll then go on to obsess later. I’m very guilty of reassurance seeking myself. I’m pretty sure everyone with OCD is. What you got to know, is who the core you is. And know it, and stop caring about being gay or whatever your obsession is. I also have HOCD, and it’s hard, but practice makes perfect. If there is any advice I can give you is to stop doing compulsions and you will see a significant decrease in your obsessions. I can guarantee that.
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Your correct, you can’t let it ruin your time with your family. I’m on vacation at the moment, and honestly it’s kinda helpful since it gets me out of the house and gives me something to do. Keep your chin up, you’ll get through this.
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I know girls be like on instagram commerns of a kpop girl Or something: she made me gay. Im like HOW?? How are u litteraly atteacred to a whole other gnede because of some girl. Such a big fear of mine thst someone will thrn me gay or that it already has happened. I truly think it had something to do with this generation, dont forget to stay true to urself!
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@HOCDiagnosed i know. But there litteraly are girls out there who mean it. I click on theyre profile and theyre bio says proud bi/gay or the flag. I know its like a slur but the real cases triggered me
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@theraptilecyka do u mean that they pretend to be gay or they pretend to have been boy crazy in the past?
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@thereptilecyka hahaha u read my thoughts exactly. But after some anxiety i sadly already reassured myself with telling myself i was boy obsessed so than i cant be lesbian because u said lesbians dont have a boy crazy past lol. Weird...
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Thanks for the helpfull advice :) i gotta get my mind straight, tomorrow im going on vacation and ugh it feels like whenever a nice event comes up in my life, my hocd is extra hard on me to make sure it kills all my excitment and makes sure thst i will have a horrible time with a lot lf anxiety. But i will try to keep my head up and follor ur advice, i cant let this ruin my precious time with my family.
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For me it was a weird intrusive thought and after that I slowly started developing anxiety and I felt a weird thing like I was losing my attraction to girls. Then I woke up one day in complete panic cuz it felt like I had lost feelings for girls suddenly and I started searching online how to know if you’re gay if sexuality changes suddenly and I took some gay tests or sexuality tests online. Chat gpt was a big thing back then too. That was before therapy and before I knew what ocd is.Can anyone relate?
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I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
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trigger warning!!!!!! I’m really scared right now. I’ve been reading Elle Warren’s articles about her experience with HOCD/SO-OCD, and it feels so similar to mine. She went through the same fears of being a lesbian, felt distressed by her attraction to women, and spent hours ruminating, Googling, and analyzing her feelings. She even experienced groinal responses and revisited old memories, just like I do. Eventually, she had a moment of realization in college when she flirted with a girl, and everything clicked. She now identifies as a lesbian. I’m terrified that the same thing will happen to me. I thought the OCD fears were supposed to never be true and that HOCD thoughts are usually just compulsions that don’t end up being real. But reading her story, it’s like I’m seeing my own experience mirrored. What if it clicks for me, just like it did for her? What if I realize that I am a lesbian? Elle’s story makes me so scared. I thought my feelings of attraction to women were just OCD-driven, and now I’m questioning everything. I thought I was straight, but now, reading her journey, I’m wondering: could my OCD fears actually be real? Elle’s experience was very similar to mine: • She got distressed when she thought she might like women, not relieved. • She spent a lot of time ruminating, Googling, analyzing, and comparing. • Her attraction to women only became intense when her OCD flared up. • She said things like, “I feel peace when I believe I’m straight.” • She had already been diagnosed with OCD and had a history of this pattern. After years of fear and distress, Elle had a moment of calm and realized that it was true. I’m scared that this could happen to me too. Will I have a similar moment of acceptance, where everything clicks and I realize I’m gay? Or will I come to accept that this is all OCD, and that I’m straight, with the possibility that I’m not? I also keep thinking back to when my OCD lessened the first time. Did I go back to men because I wasn’t actually attracted to women, or was it just because the grip of the OCD had loosened? Elle also talked about the shame associated with non-heterosexuality. She mentioned that, like many of us, she had internalized stigma around being gay, and that it made her fear the possibility of being non-heterosexual. I can relate to this so much—growing up, I never saw it as an option to be anything other than straight, and now it’s hard to shake that fear and shame. Elle mentioned that she found reassurance in seeing other people with HOCD who worried that their fears would come true, but eventually realized they were just OCD thoughts. That idea is comforting, but also a little scary, because what if that moment of realization happens for me too? What if I finally accept that I am a lesbian? Or, what if I’m just struggling with OCD and eventually realize I’m straight? I just don’t know. The scariest part is that, just like Elle, I feel like I don’t have any obvious signs. She had no idea she was a lesbian until one day, everything clicked. She was 21, just like me when my OCD fears really flared up, and she had a breakthrough moment in Denver when she made friends with lesbians. That hasn’t happened for me yet, and it’s terrifying to think that it could happen in the future. I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I’m really scared about where this will lead.
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