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I am sorry your daughter is going through this. I know my OCD started in 4th grade, I'm 47 now. I can not recall any major thing occurring except I was going through puberty. It is possible this contributed to my sudden OCD. My son who is now 19, also showed signs at an early age. I noticed little things that he used to do like rewriting over words and being the last person to turn in a test. Same issues i had. Both myself and my son were high achievers. He never got treatment until he left for college. Just be there for her and allow her to talk to you openly and freely about her obsessions and rituals. I did with my son. It helps to have family understand and not judge you. I didn't have that as it was not something that was diagnosed when i was a child. Treatment will help but make sure it is someone your daughter feels comfortable with. OCD is often triggered by stress. My younger son experienced extreme anxiety after some issues with friends happened at school. He grew very anxious and would freeze with fear before school. He didn't want to be around people. He was extremely sensitive So it is possible your daughter is experiencing some other issues besides OCD. both my sons are doing better and the older one actually was Valedictorian. So with your support, she will get better. It is just tough seeing our children go this.
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- 6y ago
Hey West. If you and your daughter want to get a good understanding of what is happening, the appropriate help and tips to deal with it in the mean time Charles H. Elliott Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder For Dummies Is a good book and available on Amazon.
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- 6y ago
As someone who has OCD but also has children I can imagine how painful this must be for you. I see little traits in my young son of an anxious disposition under his very outgoing outside and I hope that is not a sign of things to come. However there is great help out there and I would guess it would be best not to dwell to much on what triggered it wether an event or biology as the help is essentially the same. I would maybe suggest reading a book about ocd. Maybe get two copies so you can learn together, or if she is not interested in reading it yet read yours so that you will have some idea how to help until the profession help is available.
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- 6y ago
i would love talk with anyone?
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- 6y ago
Mattwalker can you recommend a book that won’t waste my time or money? ?
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- 6y ago
My OCD started at age 5-6 (37 years old now). I remember crying and telling my parents about the distress I was feeling. Their response was anger and to tell me there was nothing wrong. This led to deep shame and trying as hard as possible to conceal my symptoms as I knew they would lead to anger from my parents, as they did without fail every time they saw evidence of my anxiety or compulsions. Because of this I didn't get diagnosed or treatment until I was 19. I wish they would have seen me as someone with a mental disorder who needed compassion and treatment. So my best advice is to treat your child with love and compassion and find them proper ERP treatment.
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- 6y ago
Thank you!
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- 18w ago
I’ve been dealing with a really bad flare up the last 2 weeks and i’ve been dealing with ocd on and off for years. I was finally feeling better today, So of course my ocd decided to bring up an old intrusive thought that was really upsetting and now i’m stuck on it again. The reason why I struggle so much to conquer my ocd is because I developed ocd as postpartum so my ocd targets my kids, the ones that mean everything to me. The intrusive thoughts range from mild to really disturbing. While I know deep down the intrusive thoughts aren’t true or me, the ocd makes it feel SO real and true which makes me feel like I HAVE to disprove the thoughts and with confidence but the ocd won’t let me. It also makes me question analyze and judge everything I do. It’s an endless cycle of pain and I just want to be a mom without ocd telling me i’m a horrible person all day every day. 😪
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- 10w ago
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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- 9w ago
Hello there. I’m new here and think I may have OCD I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life. However, in my early teens, I started experiencing obsessive fears and engaging in compulsions because my brain convinced me that if I didn’t perform a certain action a specific number of times, it would “prove” that I wanted something terrible to happen. When I was 17, I began seeing a therapist and opened up to her about this. She diagnosed me with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), and I accepted the diagnosis But last night, I became curious about whether people with GAD engage in compulsions and have specific fears, so I looked it up. I was shocked to learn that these are not typical characteristics of GAD Now, I would love to find a therapist who specializes in OCD so I can get a formal diagnosis and the appropriate treatment
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