- Username
- West
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I am sorry your daughter is going through this. I know my OCD started in 4th grade, I'm 47 now. I can not recall any major thing occurring except I was going through puberty. It is possible this contributed to my sudden OCD. My son who is now 19, also showed signs at an early age. I noticed little things that he used to do like rewriting over words and being the last person to turn in a test. Same issues i had. Both myself and my son were high achievers. He never got treatment until he left for college. Just be there for her and allow her to talk to you openly and freely about her obsessions and rituals. I did with my son. It helps to have family understand and not judge you. I didn't have that as it was not something that was diagnosed when i was a child. Treatment will help but make sure it is someone your daughter feels comfortable with. OCD is often triggered by stress. My younger son experienced extreme anxiety after some issues with friends happened at school. He grew very anxious and would freeze with fear before school. He didn't want to be around people. He was extremely sensitive So it is possible your daughter is experiencing some other issues besides OCD. both my sons are doing better and the older one actually was Valedictorian. So with your support, she will get better. It is just tough seeing our children go this.
Hey West. If you and your daughter want to get a good understanding of what is happening, the appropriate help and tips to deal with it in the mean time Charles H. Elliott Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder For Dummies Is a good book and available on Amazon.
As someone who has OCD but also has children I can imagine how painful this must be for you. I see little traits in my young son of an anxious disposition under his very outgoing outside and I hope that is not a sign of things to come. However there is great help out there and I would guess it would be best not to dwell to much on what triggered it wether an event or biology as the help is essentially the same. I would maybe suggest reading a book about ocd. Maybe get two copies so you can learn together, or if she is not interested in reading it yet read yours so that you will have some idea how to help until the profession help is available.
i would love talk with anyone?
Mattwalker can you recommend a book that won’t waste my time or money? ?
My OCD started at age 5-6 (37 years old now). I remember crying and telling my parents about the distress I was feeling. Their response was anger and to tell me there was nothing wrong. This led to deep shame and trying as hard as possible to conceal my symptoms as I knew they would lead to anger from my parents, as they did without fail every time they saw evidence of my anxiety or compulsions. Because of this I didn't get diagnosed or treatment until I was 19. I wish they would have seen me as someone with a mental disorder who needed compassion and treatment. So my best advice is to treat your child with love and compassion and find them proper ERP treatment.
Thank you!
Hey, I am a gymnast and I'm pretty sure that I've had OCD since my childhood. It all started with small things like keeping my water bottle in a certain spot with me or keeping my shoes nice, aligned, and straight but nothing too serious or concerning to my parents. Now, I have all of these ongoing thoughts, especially as a level 9 gymnast. These thoughts are like "I'm going to miss my hands off the beam or injure myself," and other thoughts just like that. I have also started to have some more self-conscious thoughts about my image or having bad luck and a bad future. Now don't get me wrong I love gymnastics with all my heart but sometimes it's just hard especially since it is already a sport that puts a lot of stress both mentally and physically. I have just recently started therapy at NOCD. It is especially hard as a girl just starting to go through the stages of growing up as I am just about to turn 14. But anyway thanks for making me feel pretty welcome NOCD.
Can anyone tell me usually why or when ocd first occurs? Is it trauma from childhood? Or do people randomly wake up one day and have developed it?…. I can’t remember the first time I started/developed it, but I must’ve been like in 5th grade… I come from a Hispanic household where unfortunately a lot of these households don’t “believe” in therapy or a counselor or mental illness’. I knew something was wrong with myself but I never knew how to express it. I just thought I was actually a crazy person & wasnt “normal” as others. Until this year I started seeing a therapist & he really made me feel like I was not alone. Due to insurance purposes I had to stop seeing him. I don’t think I’ve gotten better I’ve just gotten heard…but the only positive thing about it is that I can hide it very well now, a lot of ppl wouldn’t know vs in the past I had people catch me doing “weird” things. (Very repetitive stuff, fixing things, the list goes on & on). I had to learn to manage & “hide” what I was doing because my kiddos were catching on & would ask me what or why I was doing it, for example “repetitive stuff” lol . I really want it to go away, although I have managed my ticks & triggers, it’s still always in my mind, it stops me from having fun family time, stops me from doing my work at work or doing things or even speaking in a “normal” speed way. For example telling a story or when talking, I have the need to say every single detail, I get side tracked a lot & have to explain those details then it just goes & goes I take forever to say what ima say , it takes me a long time to get to the point like this whole post here it started with a question & now idk what my point was no more 😂 ps. I love making jokes about it to myself to keep myself positive, my close family knows and they’re supportive, it’s all love. I just wish it can actually go away I am concerned it will always be with me…
Hi everyone, I am currently experiencing what I believe is an OCD flare up. I have been diagnosed with OCD and I primarily suffer from Harm OCD. I used to only experience it about once a year but since my second child was born, I am experiencing it a lot more and live with almost constant anxiety and maybe depression? So the new thing is that I'm afraid I am developing psychosis. I am scared to look at my oldest daughter (4yo) because it scares me when she spaces out and stares off into space, chooses the color red for anything, or has dark circles under her eyes (she has asthma and always has them). I guess the fear is that I will be one of the those psychotic moms (specifically like Laurie Daybell) and think my child is possessed and hurt her. It is literally hard for me to look at her and I feel terrified to be alone with her. On top of that, I have intense guilt because it seems to be more towards her than my youngest. Has anyone experienced something similar? What type of ERP was helpful? Looking for a therapist now but it is so hard to find one that understands. It's so hard to talk about. Thanks for reading.
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