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I am sorry your daughter is going through this. I know my OCD started in 4th grade, I'm 47 now. I can not recall any major thing occurring except I was going through puberty. It is possible this contributed to my sudden OCD. My son who is now 19, also showed signs at an early age. I noticed little things that he used to do like rewriting over words and being the last person to turn in a test. Same issues i had. Both myself and my son were high achievers. He never got treatment until he left for college. Just be there for her and allow her to talk to you openly and freely about her obsessions and rituals. I did with my son. It helps to have family understand and not judge you. I didn't have that as it was not something that was diagnosed when i was a child. Treatment will help but make sure it is someone your daughter feels comfortable with. OCD is often triggered by stress. My younger son experienced extreme anxiety after some issues with friends happened at school. He grew very anxious and would freeze with fear before school. He didn't want to be around people. He was extremely sensitive So it is possible your daughter is experiencing some other issues besides OCD. both my sons are doing better and the older one actually was Valedictorian. So with your support, she will get better. It is just tough seeing our children go this.
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Hey West. If you and your daughter want to get a good understanding of what is happening, the appropriate help and tips to deal with it in the mean time Charles H. Elliott Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder For Dummies Is a good book and available on Amazon.
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- 6y ago
As someone who has OCD but also has children I can imagine how painful this must be for you. I see little traits in my young son of an anxious disposition under his very outgoing outside and I hope that is not a sign of things to come. However there is great help out there and I would guess it would be best not to dwell to much on what triggered it wether an event or biology as the help is essentially the same. I would maybe suggest reading a book about ocd. Maybe get two copies so you can learn together, or if she is not interested in reading it yet read yours so that you will have some idea how to help until the profession help is available.
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i would love talk with anyone?
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- 6y ago
Mattwalker can you recommend a book that won’t waste my time or money? ?
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My OCD started at age 5-6 (37 years old now). I remember crying and telling my parents about the distress I was feeling. Their response was anger and to tell me there was nothing wrong. This led to deep shame and trying as hard as possible to conceal my symptoms as I knew they would lead to anger from my parents, as they did without fail every time they saw evidence of my anxiety or compulsions. Because of this I didn't get diagnosed or treatment until I was 19. I wish they would have seen me as someone with a mental disorder who needed compassion and treatment. So my best advice is to treat your child with love and compassion and find them proper ERP treatment.
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Thank you!
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My ocd is ruining my relationship with my kids. Because of the intrusive thoughts I avoid being close to them, hugging or cuddling up to watch tv. My ocd is either telling me I wouldn’t care if harm came to them or it turns everything into something sexual or inappropriate. For example, my daughter wanted to show me how long her nails are so she started scratching my arm gently. It felt so nice and relaxing and I immediately panicked because I was scared the ocd would cause a groinal and I don’t ever, ever want a feeling like that connected with my child even though I know it’s the ocd causing it and not me i’d still feel horrible. I just want to be a normal loving affectionate mom and I can never be that for my kids because of ocd😪 I don’t see any other parents posting about going through this or commenting that they do and how they cope. I feel so alone and defeated.
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Every day my ocd makes sure there’s a new reason for me to stay trapped in my mind rather than being the mom I want to be that my kids need. Instead i’m stuck in my head depressed and pushing them away. The other day I was braiding my daughter’s hair like I always do and her hair is really long so when I get to the end of the braid I can see her butt in my peripheral vision and I looked down and I immediately got upset asking myself why did I look down?(the ocd has made me question everything I do now). I know it’s just because I was at the end of the braid and I just looked because I was already looking in that direction. A normal person wouldn’t even think twice about it. There was no inappropriate reason behind it at all but of course my ocd latched onto the situation and said I looked down because I wanted to look at her butt. I was so upset and said to myself “I don’t understand how the ocd started an intrusive thought because she was wearing baggy pants. I could understand if she had on tight pants and her butt was more noticeable” and the only reason I said that is because usually the only time my ocd starts intrusive thoughts telling me i’m looking at my daughter in a wrong way is when she has on leggings or a crop top or bathing suit ect. Now my ocd twisted what I said to mean that I like looking at her in tight pants. Nooo! That’s not what I meant but now the ocd won’t stop trying to make me believe that. I don’t ever look at my children in any inappropriate way. I hate this. I hate ocd and I can’t live like this anymore.
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This might be asking for reassurance but I’m at a point I’m not sure if this is ocd and who better to ask than you guys. Also want to mention I have been to a psychologist who diagnosed me with ocd and I’ve tried to seek therapy through NOCD but had a bad experience so I’m just looking for an opinion I’ll take with a grain of salt. I’ve been through bouts of pocd that I got through but now it’s morphed into something that feels so different. It’s like harm ocd and pocd together and it revolves around my daughter. Before this happened I was a loving mother who valued my kid more than anything. Now this is happening and it feels so sinister. I’m getting urges to do something bad and I get these feelings like I want to do that and it’s like my brain gets foggy and my values slip away and I feel like I could do it. But then I get a moment of clarity and I’m like wait a minute I’ve never hurt anyone in my life nor have I ever thought about it and this is my child what is happening. But then I get that foggy brain again and it’s like I can’t see her as my child. I try to sit with it and it’s like I get this adrenaline rush and feel like I have to do it. But I know I don’t want to do that, but then it’s like trying to make me want to want to. I’m not sure if I’m just lacking insight and clarity because I’m overwhelmed with the groinals, urges, thoughts and feelings but I just keep obsessing over the fact that death is my only way out. I don’t understand what happened to me. It feels like this demonic oppression and I don’t know how to get through this one or if this is still something I can get through because it might not be ocd. I try to go with the thoughts and feelings and say yeah maybe, maybe not, or yeah I’m going to do that but it seems to fuel the feelings. I feel like I’m teetering between the person I was and this evil awful person who has no regard for others. I don’t want to be around my daughter and I’m just angry all the time. The fear and anxiety used to be something I relied on and I feel none of that now. I used to be able to say “well no matter what I feel or think I can control my actions” and now it feels like I cannot control my actions but I’ve never hurt anyone before. Someone please give it to me straight and tell me if you think this might not be ocd.
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