I’ve been doing really good with SOOCD and TOCD. I stopped having so many intrusive thoughts and etc but now that I’m happy in a new relationship, it’s starting to come back (at least today). And I’m just scared it gonna fully come back. Any help?
Just remember that OCD doesn’t want us to be happy. Notice how whenever we’re doing fine, random thoughts start to appear — in the moments we want things to go right, OCD tries to make us think said things are wrong. Just remember your true desires. You already know how to deal with intrusive thoughts, they aren’t your true desires. Listen to your heart, not your mind in times like these!
@Mr. Solo Dolo Thank you I appreciate this reminder!!
@Mr. Solo Dolo Do what u would’ve done before. I’m currently suffering from soocd. And it’s getting bad because I’m not feeling any anxiety. And then the thoughts r still there. But I’m getting no anxiety from most of em. I say maybe maybe not and leave it. But now I’m scared that because I don’t feel anxiety it could be true. Any help with this?
@Anonymo12 That’s called meta worry. You’re worried that you’re not worried about your thoughts. That’s also an OCD symptom. OCD doesn’t want you to improve because it feeds off of fear. That fact that you aren’t worrying about your thoughts is a good thing. That means you’re close to conquering OCD. Just respond to your thoughts the way you’ve been doing. You’re on the right track! Don’t let OCD drag you back in. Tell yourself, “Maybe I’m not feeling anxious about these thoughts because I’m gay and I like these thoughts… Who knows🤷🏾♂️” Something along those lines, just please don’t fall back into the trap. You’re almost at the finish line!
@Mr. Solo Dolo Man it feels so real mannnn it feels so real it’s making me forget the days that I cried for this to go away. Man it jus feels so real
@Anonymo12 If it feels real then that means you’re still experiencing anxiety. That’s all it is, thought-action fusion. Think about a time something scared you. Your brain processes it, then you felt anxious, then you realized it wasn’t a threat, anxiety dissipated. Your brain thinks these thoughts are a threat. But they aren’t they’re nothing! Tell the OCD what it wants to hear, and it’ll stop triggering your anxiety. The less you think about it, the less anxious you’ll feel.
@Mr. Solo Dolo But I don’t feel anxiety anymore. It’s like I don’t feel it anymore and I want it now. I still do maybe maybe not or sometimes I jus accept it. It makes me forget abt the days I hated it and I wanted it gone. Now it makes me think I want it
@Mr. Solo Dolo @Mr. Solo Dolo But I don’t feel anxiety anymore. It’s like I don’t feel it anymore and I want it now. I still do maybe maybe not or sometimes I jus accept it. It makes me forget abt the days I hated it and I wanted it gone. Now it makes me think I want it
Do what u would’ve done before. I’m currently suffering from soocd. And it’s getting bad because I’m not feeling any anxiety. And then the thoughts r still there. But I’m getting no anxiety from most of em. I say maybe maybe not and leave it. But now I’m scared that because I don’t feel anxiety it could be true. Any help with this?
@Anonymo12 This is called the back door spike. When you experience intrusive thoughts still but no anxiety. Which therefore gives you anxiety because you’re worried it means something because you don’t have any anxiety. Treat this like another intrusive thought!
@Anonymo12 Bru I’m the opposite I get anxiety for no reason mostly at school and argue to tell someone
I'm new to NOCD, but not new to my own OCD journey. I was diagnosed in 2017 and usually experience relationship obsessions. Medication helped me tremendously and I was able to tackle and overcome the anxiety I felt when my husband and I first got together. Fast forward to now. My best friend has decided to casually enter the dating world again and that terrifies me. The fact that it scared me triggered an HOCD spiral, that I think I've now gotten myself out of. I just feel pathetic for being so fearful that my friend is going to realize she's too good for me and leave me behind once she has a partner. I know this likely stems from my own feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem, but my OCD has latched itself to this fear and I've been catching myself falling into old habits that I thought I'd overcome. I don't want to be living under the cloud again. Just looking for some encouragement or someone else who understands what this feels like.
I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
I haven’t posted on here in a few days because I was feeling better but the past two days I’ve climbed my way back down the rabbit hole it seems. There’s this guy that I’m interested in and he seems to be interested in me. He keeps calling me pretty and how he’d like to meet me (he’s friends with my friends but I haven’t met him properly yet lmao) But I keep getting thoughts like “you’re not interested, you like women” and so on. I was feeling giddy about the whole thing up until two days ago where everything just seemed to shut off like my attraction, excitement and so on. I can’t believe I’m going through this again and I’m really trying to accept the thoughts but it’s so debilitating as I really want a bf but my brain keeps passing through thoughts that I do not want at all. Does anyone relate? Or have any coping strategies to help?
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