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- 5y
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I'm working on that today. Try to meditate/do some mindfulness exercise, then redirect your attention to something you used to enjoy! the thoughts will stay but don't engage them, it takes a bit of non-effort (if you try too hard or not hard enough, it doesnt work). Good luck :)
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- 5y
Ruminating is one of mine too. If I feel myself starting to think I try and shout at myself to stop so that the ‘stop’ thoughts are louder than my rumination if that makes sense? That might be such an unhealthy ineffective thing to do hahaha but I do it sometimes. Recently I’ve started doing like adult colouring books and listening to music/podcast to try and distract myself. The thoughts are still there but I don’t think I ruminate as much in that time. Maybe you could try something like that?
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- Date posted
- 5y
I totally get this! I set a timer for myself for like 10 min and I’m like “I will return to this problem in 10 min if I think it’s relevant. “
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- 5y
I’m really struggling with this too ... with my phone as well especially on social media - I’ve previously resorted to completely deleting all my social media but that wasn’t readable. I’ve also worked on putting my phone on “do not disturb” to avoid the urge to check. But that’s also a struggle ... Not sure if I can give any good advice because I’m also struggling with this very very badly, but if anyone has any tactics ... please
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- 5y
Feasible** instead of readable
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- 22w
I cannot for the life of me stop ruminating or checking how I feel about thoughts or focusing on thoughts or creating more thoughts. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I want to scream. I try not to ruminate about the thoughts, but trying not to just makes me think about them more. I try not to check, but somehow, I still check. I want to let a thought sit in the background, but the more I try not to focus on it, the more I end up focusing on it. I don’t want the thought to expand because that feels like engaging with it, but I can’t just stop it from expanding. It feels impossible. People keep saying I’m in control of my compulsions, and maybe that’s true for the physical ones. But when it comes to the mental compulsions, I swear I have no control. It feels like I’m missing something that everyone else seems to have, like there’s some tool they’re using that I don’t have. Controlling mental compulsions has never felt possible for me. I’m starting to fear them. And every time someone says I’m in control and can just choose not to do them, I end up beating myself up even more when they happen. Or when I *choose* I guess. I don’t know anymore. If this is my fault, if I’m responsible for this, then what does that make me? I feel like a monster. I am at my wits’ end. How am I supposed to control mental compulsions when it feels like they control me? I freak out when they happen. They don’t bring me relief, they just make me panic. I want it to stop so bad.
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- Date posted
- 17w
What's a piece of advice you give when someone has constantly intrusive thoughts and ruminations that won't stop? Interested to see what you tell others.....more on this when I see some replies!!!
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 16w
I thankfully conquered harm ocd but I’m going through a flare up with relationship OCD, which I never got over. I know how bad reassurance seeking is but I can’t seem to quit. I ask my mom the same question countless times and it never helps. I feel bad because she tries to help and prevent me from seeking reassurance but I drive her crazy because I keep asking anyways. And if I don’t ask her, I reassure myself in my head. How are we supposed to resist these compulsions fully if we’re so scared? It feels as if I’ll never be confident enough to trust my own beliefs, even when I recover in the future with ERP
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