Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

False attraction is powerful

I don’t know anymore it just feels like it’s growing like I don’t have a sexual attraction to same-sex and never did, but it feels like physical attraction I guess(emotional or romantic). Like at work there's this one dude my brain likes to linger on and i get urges to ask him out and it feels like genuinely attractive. This is a genuine attraction how I used to feel with women. Like no anxiety no nothing, or maybe a little bit because you everyone gets nervous around crushes. And now for women like if i even tried to fantasize about them it feels like i don't even like it anymore and it feels like my body and brain pushes it away when I try to fantasize or try to find a girl attractive now. Is this still HOCD and if so how can i beat this stage.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Using statements, like "I see you OCD" or "I don't care" are helpful to pull back your attention to the present and let you get on with your day, but they take time, it's like building a muscle.....you may need to repeat them a lot at first as the thoughts keep coming back but it's important you don't give in to ruminating as that is like pouring petrol on the OCD fire. But I think targeting the OCD during exposures is the most powerful tool in combatting the illness.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

i guess, it just feels like its not working, because its at a point where it messing with my emotions and feelings where it feels like im actually gay and ive been convinced and its the truth. And the worse part about it is that im disgusted or anxious ect, it feels like ive become ok with becoming gay. Idk it its because ive been dealing with this for so long or something.

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous But keep doing ERP it will definitely help but equally you must stop the compulsions.....yes it's hard but ruminating trying to figure it out is adding fuel to the OCD fire all the time

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Garrett Maguire - that is what im trying to work on but il do my best thank you for responding.

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Well I think trying to analyse your way through OCD will not work, using ERP in a targeted way with a professional will give you much more clarity

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

i just dont think its working. You its like im not allow to have uncertainty my HOCD wont allowed that, It makes as a statement, like,"Your gay," and it feels like ive been convinced. Like it feels like i have to just be gay and be 1000 percent commited to it.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

like when I say whatever, or dont care, it doesnt work, it just keeps coming back either with a feeling or thought.

68273

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous I know what you mean. You always hear people say, “maybe, maybe not” but your ocd doesn’t accept that . It’ll say ,” there’s not uncertainty, you are x, y and z. “ it sucks

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@68273 No it doesn't at first but acknowledgeing the thought and saying maybe, maybe not, every time the thought comes, will gradually build up and become stronger,.....it's when we give up and ruminate as OCD wants that we fall back into the cycle, but no matter how often that happens we start again, it will get easier before long.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@68273 - Exactly!!! thank you!!!! idk it feels like ive 100 percent been convinced that i am gay with no anxiety and ive become even tho i dont want to be gay it just feels like im gay now it feels like i want and like the thoughts. I have a very hard time reading my feelings according to my sister and mom, i do get anxiety, fear, distress from this, but it doesnt feel like it.

68273

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous I’ve been there. Like w erp I started habituating and then started getting thoughts that I liked it on top of groinal response w no anxiety. But I think the anxiety is in that we don’t have anxiety which is the same thing

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@68273 - I hope so i dont want to be gay, but it feels like i am now like its the truth and im just in denail. I got these thoughts when i turned 20 and never questioned my sexuality, never had an attraction towards a dude or romanticized or sexualized them once.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@68273 - sorry i meant to type I dont want to be gay

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

I think, if you do ERP with a qualified therapist the anxiety will ease and the mind will feel clearer......then at that stage I would say, just do whatever you feel happy with.....

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

i know my problem is that i face zero anxiety and at times it feels like ive become ok with being gay. Like right now it feels like im gay and im just denying and i actually like and want the thoughts. And i dont want to be gay, i was never gay before. this all started when i was 20. and now im 21 still dealing with this everyday but it gets worse.

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Yeah it will keep coming back until you do strong ERP on it.......you need to confront the anxiety wherever it is until you habituate to it......OCD will always tell you, the therapy won't work on me.....but it will if you persist and you may need to target the fear that the therapy won't work.... that's really common from what I've read about it.

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

My OCD told me I couldn't live without certainty, on my theme.......but it was wrong,....I can and happily....once the anxiety was confronted everything changed

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

my problem is i can feel the anxiety

Anonymous

Date posted: 20w

SOCD false attraction

hey guys, i’m almost fully healed in my socd journey but what’s stopping me is the false atractions. i get them almost 24/7 at this point and to every thing. they feel real and i hate them they make me feel disgusted. they also make me feel like hot and gross but then i see people saying thats what attractions feel like, but i have felt so much attraction to the opposite gender pre all of this and it felt nice and enjoyable not digustinf. i’m also getting false memory trying to show me ‘signal’ from my childhood to prove i’m gay amd i truly don’t know if they’re real. it’s so degrading and at this point i feel like govining up. pelesse if you have any advice or even if your going through the same thing just let me know. ocd is so terrible

mattis!

Date posted: 16w

Feels so real

I don’t know if it’s SOOCD. I no longer feel anxious in the moment when I think about women, and it’s like my imagination wants me to think about it and get aroused. I don’t want to be gay, but maybe I am after all. In my life I haven’t been so sexually driven before (when I was living with a man, or when being single) but now all I can think about is having sex with a woman. I don’t want to, but somehow my body does and it feels like my mind have changed to accept it to.. feel so sad This all started around 4 weeks ago..

What is happ...

Date posted: 16w

Does false attraction change?

When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.

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