Well for me, it is hard to instantaneously feel good about myself while I’m amongst many people. I usually will step out, if even to the restroom, and I focus on my breathing, I smile to myself as well, a smile doesn’t require thought or words, it really is innate for our body to perceive that smile as contentment and acceptance. I even smile at myself in the mirror, I will even hug myself, or pet my arm to let myself know I’m ok. We think every action we take has to involve thought. Did you know that, thoughts are 99% false and lead us to our own unhappiness?
So when I’m in the thick of an anxiety filled situation, I have to regroup and ground myself. Now, if I wasn’t in peril, regarding what my mind perceives as scary and uncontrollable, of course I wouldn’t even be on this forum. I think there is much to learn on this forum even for people without OCD. It is fine that we question things, events and people, because that’s what sets us apart from other animals, our intellect. It is how we perceive or our perception of how life SHOULD be that leads us astray. Should Is very unforgiving and rigid. Should, means we aren’t normal or within the norm and we SHOULD have esp or we should always be in the KNOW. That is absurd and not even possible. Should is actually very vague, in the respects of, who is perceiving the SHOULD. Absurd.
Ok, now I just realized another way to love yourself. Buy yourself a cup of coffee, go to a spa, take a walk, feed your mind with a book that is a way of being your own friend. “I deserve to feel good and enjoy life. I’m taking care of me.” Smile ❤️
Then you can resume your other interests and your passions. Once grounded in the goodness that is YOU.
