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- 1y
Relationship OCD alongside relationship issues
My wife and I have been married for almost 6 years now and we have a 1 year old. Before we got married I had a breakdown and came to realize I have relationship ocd. The OCD has come and gone and come again. Sometimes about our relationships, sometimes other subjects. This past year has been incredibly hard. My step father passed from cancer and we were both close to him. We've also had a ton of unplanned for bills along with other issues. Typically we are okay but over the past year my wife has had blowups (she has her own issues that she is aware of and working on) in which she threatens divorce basically because she thinks we'd be better off without her (she has childhood trauma). This really affects me especially since my parents are divorced. My issue is, I think my OCD is attacking this now and our relationship again. I know these are issues we need to work on and work through, but my ocd(i think) keeps asking what if things don't get better, what if you do get divorced and so on. I dont know how to seperate the ocd from the real problems that we just need to work on. This is really difficult. I also just think I'm pretty depressed with all the stress this past year. What is sad is, probably 6 months ago I was thinking "wow my ocd seems gone". Ugh.