Coffeelover11
- Date posted
- 1y
I hate it
I feel like my ocd is ruining my relationship. I can’t stop confessing and all it’s doing is making my partner feel differently about me. I wish I could just stop
Coffeelover11Coffeelover11
- Date posted
- 1y
I know exactly how you feel! I hate that others are dealing with this but at the same time it’s nice to know I’m not crazy and that others have similar thoughts and stories and I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. Mine will tell me the same thing too! He says leave the past where it belongs and just be a better person today. But I tell him I don’t feel like I can be a better person unless I confess all my “sins” then I can actually be a better person. It’s nice to know that your partner doesn’t care to know the thoughts. He said he especially doesn’t wanna hear it if it’s bad about him because it may hurt his feelings and he would forgive me anyways so it doesn’t matter. We got this tho! We can break it and I’m glad to have a community to talk to
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
@Coffeelover11 Me too!!!!! It’s so nice sharing!
RedknightRedknight
- Date posted
- 1y
What are you confessing about? (If it’s too personal, you don’t have to share)
Coffeelover11Coffeelover11
- Date posted
- 1y
I’m confessing bad thoughts that I’ve had and mistakes that I’ve made in the past. Even tho he forgives me and wants to leave things in the past I keep bringing up tiny details just Incase I forgot something and even false memories just to be safe. I didn’t cheat or anything but I have so much guilt for the mistakes I did make and can’t seem to forgive myself
BossManAlexBossManAlex
- Date posted
- 1y
@Coffeelover11 Hi coffee lover. Can I share some of my experiences with you
Coffeelover11Coffeelover11
- Date posted
- 1y
@BossManAlex Yes please :)
PubbywomwomPubbywomwom
- Date posted
- 1y
Have you looked into ERP therapy?
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Hello! I totally relate to this!
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
ERP has been pretty helpful for me but I still confess anything and everything…thoughts too it's so annoying.
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
It’s the worst!!!!!
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
I always think I’ll just say one more thing then I’ll be done! Never works…
Coffeelover11Coffeelover11
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous I do the exact same thing. I will tell my bf I just need one more and I think I’ll be good but it never happens. My brain will come up with something else within an instant and I’m back to square one. It’s horrible
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
@Coffeelover11 SAME! I’ll be totally chilling for like a minute then boom right back to it. I’m trying really really hard to not confess every thought or anything but it’s SO hard at times. The thoughts can go back from so long ago that I didn’t think were bad until now. I want to get better so badly!
Coffeelover11Coffeelover11
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous That’s exactly what I deal with too! I’m in therapy for it and something’s I’ve been able to not confess but when it gives me so much anxiety it’s so hard to ignore. One thing that helped me is my partner told me he doesn’t want to hear it and doesn’t care how bad the thought was. He doesn’t give me reassurance anymore which is still hard to get used too but he will tell me I already know the answer if I confess. It helps but still sucks. It’ll be thoughts from years ago and then I think I’m a horrible person for having that thought and it’s even worse that I didn’t realize it was bad at the time therefore it must be true. Like how could I not know better. But it’s good to know that it bothers us now because we are more aware and have more knowledge so we can’t be too hard on ourselves. It’s still so much easier said than done as I still struggle so much with it
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
@Coffeelover11 YES YES YES! I love (don’t love that we have this) when I hear similar experiences! Makes me feel so understood because most don’t understand!!!! My boyfriend has told to stop worrying about the past and focusing in on the thoughts and everything and it has helped me SO much, but still some days are hard. I’m eager to break the cycle.
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