wannabesurfer
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I have harm ocd and my friend has been self harming and I want to be there for them but I am not sure how to. Any advice?
LavenderGreyhoundLavenderGrey...
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Sometimes just talking to them and spending time together can help. You don’t always have to talk about heavy stuff. It’s good to have fun, get their mind off of things. But they should probably also look into professional help if it all possible. Just let them know how much you care for them and to not make any rash decisions.
AnonymousAnonymous
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I'll add that you could direct them to a crisis line -- they will help with things like self harm, it doesn't have to be about bigger crises. And yes, being there for them in general will be a big help
AnonymousAnonymous
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What is the question? Do you feel that it is harder for you to be there for them because of your harm OCD? Or is that not the case?
wannabesurferwannabesurfer
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@Anonymous Yes I do feel like it’s harder and I really want to engage in compulsions to try to help them even though I know that won’t help them
AnonymousAnonymous
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@wannabesurfer You should be mindful and take care of yourself. But you can also be there for your friend. I believe it's possible to do both, and I think there's some sort of balance to the situation where you can take care of them and yourself. That's just my thoughts, take it with a grain of salt. If you want to talk more about it, we can.
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