ocdhelplol
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- 1y
Help
why does calling intrusive thoughts “unwanted desires” make me feel better?? i think it’s cause sometimes the thoughts feel wanted even tho i still get distress and know they don’t feel like who i am
ocdhelplolocdhelplol
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- 1y
is this normal??
ZTValenZTValen
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- 1y
To an extent, I think so. It's changing how you're framing the terms. Certain framing you might have more negative connotations than others. It could be a change of stakes. I know some folks who had transgender OCD (one of the themes I used to have) who found looking at themselves as non-binary opposed to trans was less distressing due to having lower stakes. Maybe something similar is happening here?
ocdhelplolocdhelplol
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- 1y
@ZTValen were they non-binary or they just would rather have that than be full on trans?
ZTValenZTValen
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@ocdhelplol They'd rather be that than full on trans. Being trans to them meant uprooting their whole lives, going on hormones, etc. That's the weight it had. Whereas, saying they were nonbinary held a different weight; it wouldn't have been a radical shift in their life, so it caused them less distress.
ocdhelplolocdhelplol
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@ZTValen i think i get what you are saying like calling it unwanted desires makes the stakes less high because it’s broader and if i’m confused about if i like the thoughts or not, they can fall under this umbrella and still have it be ocd/ not my true self
ocdhelplolocdhelplol
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@ZTValen that makes sense! so they weren’t non-binary but preferred that over trans
ZTValenZTValen
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@ocdhelplol Yeah, I find it's easier to explain through examples. Hence, why I pulled from something I found similar from a different theme. Regardless, I'd say TOCD and SOOCD are similar enough to make a comparison. Hopefully that's a satisfying answer!
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