Anonymous1909
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Rocd
Does the feeling of love comes back in? Does clarity and “certainty ( the certainty we all actually want during the rough days of suffering) ” comes eventually? Does it. ?
anniebanannieanniebanannie
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I have found that when I don’t engage with the obsessions and compulsive checking, eventually I naturally feel the feelings of love I had originally been searching for. It is difficult to not engage with the thoughts and compulsions. But in my experience, it has come in waves and has ended up okay after every spike.
Anonymous1909Anonymous1909
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@anniebanannie When I felt those lovey dovey feelings after not engaging with my thoughts , I doubted that too for me I think I don’t even know what love means now
anniebanannieanniebanannie
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@Anonymous1909 I understand. It is hard. And as we know, OCD is all about doubt. And because “love” is something that is a feeling, not something provable or concrete, it makes it something that OCD can latch on to. That is something I try and remind myself. And I try to trust the person I am when I am not in an OCD flare up
Lizzie Lizzie
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@anniebanannie I like this reply. Love is a feeling, but because it’s always being depicted in an unrealistic way by the media, it makes us second guess how we should be feeling, or what a ‘real’ relationship actually looks like, which creates the perfect breeding ground for OCD thoughts and doubts. I have SO OCD on top and it’s awful x
Anonymous1909Anonymous1909
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@Lizzie Im totally fine with the love feeling coming and going but I should at least know that I do love my partner even if I’m not feeling it some days. The worst part is I’ve forgotten what it feels like
Anonymous1909Anonymous1909
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@anniebanannie Kind of feel ashamed!! that my partner loves me so much and I’m here in this situation in which I never ever wanted to be in
Lizzie Lizzie
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@Anonymous1909 @Anonymous1909 I really hear you. I feel I live a double life in my head and it really haunts me every day. As you know, OCD obscures feelings and creates anxiety, making it hard to know how you feel in the end. It sounds like you are trying to get better and save your relationship, which indicates you do love your partner - why would you be on here otherwise asking these questions. Lots of people are quick to end relationships these days, but you are hanging in there, which shows how much you want it to work out. I hope you reach a more peaceful place ❤️
Anonymous1909Anonymous1909
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@Lizzie It all feels so unreal as well as real at the same time. Sometimes k feel like I’m just too weak to breakup when I just can’t do this to him at all. Cant break his heart. Ugh! Thankyou so much though❤️
bruinbruin
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@Anonymous1909 How long has yours been going on for? My rocd has gotten terrible since I got engaged:(
Anonymous1909Anonymous1909
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@bruin 2 years now
bruinbruin
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@Anonymous1909 Oh my gosh:( I am so sorry. I totally understand it is so hard to overcome.
Anonymous1909Anonymous1909
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@bruin Yeah actually I’m so scared for my future with him how am i gonna do and go on like this.
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