Panic attacks, help

I've been watching her tiktok for 3 hours without stopping, I'm really going Crazy

@Mimimi66 Ye u have to stop doing that, make a joke out of it stop taking it so serious

Yes, this girl here makes me feel weird, She looks a Little bit like my ex boyfriend but She Is not masculine so I don't understand why I'm feeling that way, normally I had hocd triggered only by masc women so I'm scared i'm really attracred to her

@Mimimi66 I understand that this can be difficult. But I have some good news! I think what you might be experiencing is what is termed “same-sex false alarm attraction”. This is a psychological phenomenon that occurs when a person is actually straight, but feels attracted to someone of the same gender for a short amount of time. This phenomenon can be caused by a lot of different factors and is more common than sometimes people may believe. It sounds exactly like what you might be dealing with. This woman you are feeling attracted to looks like your ex boyfriend. If you’re experiencing false alarm attraction, the reason you feel attracted to this woman isn’t because you are oriented towards women especially if you were straight to begin with. It is simply because you had a romantic relationship with a boy that looks like this woman. Since she looks similar to your old boyfriend, seeing this woman is tricking your brain into thinking you’re attracted to her because your brain subconsciously thinks it’s still your boyfriend. And, if you still have feelings for your old boyfriend, it can fan the flames of false alarm attraction even more.

@Redknight I don't have feelings for him anymore, but even my Friends are saying She looks a lot like him

@Mimimi66 Fair enough. Even if you dont have feelings for him, false alarm attraction can still occur. Perhaps a good remedy for this (if you’re feeling up to it) is to seek out men you’re attracted to. After a while, you might forget all about this woman and her tik tok. It might be a healthy change of perspective and help you get out of this rumination you’re experiencing.

@Redknight Can it happen without having her exact case?

@star1232 It can. Many different experiences and circumstances can trigger this phenomenon.

@Redknight We have to talk on other app please

@star1232 Wait what other app?

@Redknight Insta, what’s app, facebbok

@star1232 Sure! You can follow me on Facebook if you want. @Henry Pullan

@Redknight Added u

I have no idea, it's a pretty irrational thing actually, I even talked about It with my mom and she said It would be no problem, so I really don't know why It Is such an obsession

@Mimimi66 You might not like this response, or you might feel worried about it. But the truth is that human attraction is so complicated. We could be attracted to a woman yet not want to date one, or maybe you are attracted to a woman’s features yet not want to date her simultaneously. At the end of the day, we can’t control how our bodies feel when we see a person. What we can control is our response to the sensation. You are trying to find the slightest imperfection in your sexuality and attraction. The old saying goes “seek, and ye shall find” meaning, even the straightest person you know might find aspects of the same sex even slightly attractive. As with most things in this world, attraction comes in shades of gray, not just black and white. However, you have a lot of anxiety over this, and let me tell you it’s the same as any other ocd. You’ve gotta learn to be calm in that uncertainty. Next time you see someone triggering pop up on tiktok, try even saying “wow I am sooo attracted to you”. “I am soo gay” It’s an exposure, and I promise it’s not gonna hurt you in any way. It’s not gonna feel good, but that how you know it’s working! Best of luck!

@Rumpelgoocher I Just never thought that I could like someone else feautures even without wanting to be with Them... I don't know why You kinda made me feel a Little less anxious, and I'll try to do what you suggested! Thank you so much, I Hope you have a wonderful day❤️

@Mimimi66 Of course! I hope you have a lovely weekend!