I’m so jealous of people without POCD. I’ve always wanted to be a mother and I would be an amazing one, but it would be mental torture for me with POCD, to the point where I wonder if I should be one at all. I hate this.
This just made me cry. I feel the same way, I used to think about being a mom. I want to be as good as a mom that mine was to my sister and I and it really hurts that I feel like I don’t think I will ever have that. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t have any advice to give unfortunately, but you’re so strong. You are not this. Hold onto hope that one day things will be better.
I completely understand this it feels like a dream of mine isn’t obtainable anymore. But i think things will get better. Im here for anyone of you guys who are struggling with this too.
You should 🩷 don’t let OCD get in the way of you living the life you want to live. I know it’s hard and it hurts right now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will get there. No matter what kind of thoughts you have, they aren’t a reflection of you or your beliefs. You’ll get through this, keep going.
I was literally about to post about this earlier… I used to dream of being a mum. My head won’t even let me imagine it anymore
Hugs. Solidarity here. I'm a therapist myself and I am doing a lot better so please know there is hope. I have flare ups from time to time but it gets better.
Same and I feel like if it goes away it might come back when you become one
I had POCD many years ago now I have 3 kids and no POCD
Does anyone with POCD have children? I want to have children in the future, but the idea of it really scares me because of my fears. Something I have been learning in therapy is not to make fear-based decisions. So it’s definitely something I want to do, but I just wanna know some of your experiences with this.
It’s only just sank in that I am never going to be able to live a normal life. All I have ever wanted from a young age is to have children of my own, I was a young mother hen when I was a child haha, I was always looking after the little ones. I never ever had an intrusive thought like that ever. I’ve been coping good with the POCD lately but when I think about having children of my own it absolutely terrifies me because I’d be left alone with them almost all of the time and I am so so so scared that I’ll harm them. I’d rather die than harm a child, I would rather be tortured to death than harm a child. I’ve been dealing with POCD for over a year and I still cannot understand why this had to happen to me. My whole world has been shattered by this. My confidence has been destroyed, it has killed me. I used to love the idea of children, now I hate it.
I struggle with pocd amongst many other ocd themes and even the thought of having children triggers it so badly. I try and avoid being around kids because they trigger it obviously but it makes me so sad because I was always so good with kids until I started struggling with this theme. I want children because I think it adds something very special to your life but I know having kids would drive my ocd insane. It’s like I can image how great I would be as a mum and then there is this ocd barrier between me and that. Maybe a lot of therapy could help but I’ve had ocd my whole life I think it’s just apart of my brain I don’t know if it can be fixed
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