I’m getting a bit overwhelmed

Nah females who find that your ocd gets worse when you’re on your period how do you handle it? Because I’ve been “reading signs” that the guy I’m totally head over heels for hates me now just because he’s got a lot on his plate right now and he’s not feeling the best mentally, I’ve not changed that to fit the storyline that I’m gonna loose him. I then brought this up to him in a way where I was like I hope that me being away (I’m currently travelling for 3 months) and our thing in general isn’t one of the things plaguing your mind, he then said no it’s not. I then said okay good I just wanna check that we’re still good sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed he said yeah I understand don’t worry, but my brain then goes “why didn’t he say of course I wanna still be with you don’t worry” which then makes me think he hates me. I’m so fucking overwhelmed! Because now also I feel like a horrible gf I’ve been trying to be there for him and I fully know that this all has nothing to do with me he’s got stuff on his mind, and I’ve just gone wait is this because you hate me? When I didn’t mean it like that! And now I wanna apologise and say I’m sorry for how stupid my question was, but I’ve already done that AND NOW I’ve made up that he actually fully hates me and his “it’s okay don’t worry” actually is “stfu you’re annoying me” I CANT WIN!

Relationship OCD

eeinparis12

Date posted: 1y

GIRL I AM IN THIS EXACT SITUATION RIGHT NOW, about to start ovulating (the menstrual OCD spike happens for me during ovulation and my OCD ever so graciously lets my depression take the wheel for my period) and my girlfriend is really busy right now and not sleeping and that tends to leave her in a generally short mood and I have been absolutely freaking out that she is mad at me and is “ignoring me” My advice is to look outside the situation. Someone told me once that it makes no sense that I would be paranoid about them leaving now when if they wanted to they already would have, most people are not people pleasers in the way we tend to be, if they don’t want to be in a situation then they just don’t participate If they were going to leave they would have already and they havnt OH other thing that I do that’s helpful: I try to talk myself through the problem and I always start with “why are you upset” “because I think ______ is upset with me” “why?” “Because they arnt answering me” “okay did you actually do anything that would explain why they arnt answering?” “No” “okay then if you didn’t do anything to make them upset then why would they just suddenly be upset with you? That dosnt make sense” “oh ya” *goes about day* Hope this helps you bestie :))

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