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Hocd
Haven’t tested myself in a week maybe now my mind is trying to see if I like it now what do I do
Haven’t tested myself in a week maybe now my mind is trying to see if I like it now what do I do
Keep doing what you were doing before. You’re doing a good job! OCD will get louder and try to creep back in which is totally normal—and while you can’t control the thoughts that surface, you can control how you react to them.
Good job! That’s incredibly difficult and you should be proud of yourself! Sounds like you’re experiencing an OCD backdoor spike, when you don’t let the thoughts bother you or stop ruminating and your OCD tries to make you think that this means the thoughts are true. This is NOT the case! continue resisting compulsions and rumination, you’re doing great!
@Sadie1994! Yea men private areas hop up in my mind and I kinda like check to see if I’m aroused and it feels like I am it’s so confusing. But when I used to actually imagine the images and see if I was aroused I wouldn’t be
@Nko I totally get that and it’s so hard not to obsess and test ourselves for reactions but it’s a vicious cycle. You have to just let the thought come acknowledge it is a symptom of your OCD and let it go. Easier said than done but will pay off in the end. I promise.
@Sadie1994! When the images pop up in my mind out of nowhere and I kinda like check to see if I’m aroused, does that count as like falling into the compulsion?
@Nko Yes, it’s a reassurance seeking behavior. Best thing you can do is let the thought come and not try to apply meaning to it. It’s way easier said than done but it’s the only way through. ❤️
@Sadie1994! Yea I made a promise that I wouldn’t actually imagine the thoughts. I feel like I failed because I’m still checking when they pop up. Even thought I’m not sitting there and forcibly imagining stuff
@Nko They’re intrusive thoughts. You can’t control them or stop them but you can control how you react to them. And what I mean by that is you can control whether or not you obsess over them by trying to find the meaning or analyzing your reaction to them.
@Sadie1994! Thank you so much
Of course! It’s tough but I can promise it’s not forever.
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
I haven’t been diagnosed with it, but I feel like nothing else describes me better. If you do have this feeling and thoughts, what are some ways to lower your anxiety ?
Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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