I had an intrusive thought saying I want to let these feelings for my dad as in sexual an dormant if and just to feel them but I don’t want to so I don’t know why my brain is saying that now I’m scared that I actually do have feelings for my dad that aren’t intrusive thoughts. Help!
I wonder if this helps- but if the thoughts feel out of control, I like to think that that’s a sign that they’re not coming from a place of truth.
@veronica.confused Thank you!
That actually helped me thank you!
Hey there. Imma start off by saying that I have been in a relationship with my bf for almost two years. I am telling you this because basically the same thing just happened to me and I feel so guilty and like a bad person/girlfriend even though I shouldn't. I saw a picture of one of my second cousins and I thought that he had a glow up and looked good. I thought that since I had this thought that I was a bad person and It made me feel disgusted and humiliated or that I am into my cousin even though I am obviously not. OCD attaches to things we care about and people we care about and turns it into something scary or false. OCD destroys confidence. I am here to tell you but also to remind myself that just because you have an unwanted thought does not mean that it is real. I can also promise you that we both wouldn't be here if we didn't want to get better or stand up to OCD. I know it is scary and hard to face, but I promise you that overtime it will get easier. I am here if you ever need to talk. It's comforting having someone to relate to, and it's just a nice reminder that someone is going through the same thing we are. ❤️
@relatablethoughts I’m so tired of it all
@Caitlin2820281 - me too
@relatablethoughts But thank you I appreciate it❤️
@Caitlin2820281 - ofc I hope it gets better❤️
@relatablethoughts Same for you. It’s just hard waking up everyday and knowing like great another day of this you know
@Caitlin2820281 - girl I feel you its exhausting. I think the worst thing is when you have a good day and you feel like ur ocd is finally "gone" or getting better and then the same thing happens the next day and you're like... well hell.💀
@relatablethoughts Ikr or when you’re having a semi decent day and then a new one happens it’s just like omg go away already
@Caitlin2820281 - ikrrr. and then trying not to get reassurance from ppl u care ab is the worst. such an isolating feeling man :/
@relatablethoughts Omg yes and the thing is from seeking reassurance from my mum I’ve practically created a lot of tension and I’m finding it hard to have connection with her now
@Caitlin2820281 - omg girl don't even get me started on my mom. we used to be best friends and now we have the worst relationship and its mostly bc of her. its like you want to tell them but you can't. I think it's just best to realize you can never get anyone else to understand what you're feeling, so thats why I come on here and try to connect with other people and hope they're going thru the same thing.
@relatablethoughts Thing is my mum is very understanding about everything I am going through I really love and respect her in that way it’s just I really pick on her a lot when she doesn’t and says something I don’t like and when I have a thought like oh she looked at me in a rude way and oh she doesn’t have you know I hate saying it but like the best body ever I tell her and say it’s an intrusive thought cause technically it doesn’t align with my values to think these things that’s why I feel bad and guilty so I tell her and now because I send it on text she doesn’t look at them now which I understand cause I can see how hurtful that can be
@Caitlin2820281 *does
@Caitlin2820281 - yes. I get it have you tried showing her support videos on how to be there for you through this time? my therapist recommended this for me and my bf just so he can be more understanding and know that when I say things that are hurtful its not me trying to hurt him its just a worried thought that I have.
@relatablethoughts No I have never seen them before
@Caitlin2820281 - you should try it really helped me and helped him understand why I think the way I think more!
@relatablethoughts Yeah okie
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@Elliss Ok so I’m not the only one thank god
hey, so i’ve had these insane thoughts about like, this dude. and i assumed it’s intrusive feelings, but it also has happened w the fact o think i like girls? but i don’t? like, i get the gronal response, and everything, and like, it sometimes feels like i actually like them, but it always makes me sick? same way w the false attraction guy, and it even started happening w my bsf of like 9 years? and it’ll tell me the most insane things like “maybe u are attracted” “maybe if u got w them the thoughts will stop” someone please help.
I have been struggling today, most likely due to lack of sleep. I had a thought that I would consider intrusive, but what really unsettled me was that I felt like I liked it, **not just in the sense that I lacked anxiety over it, but that I genuinely felt like I wanted it.** It left me feeling really confused. It happened during intimacy, which makes it even more unsettling. The thought was incestuous, I found myself imagining and comparing the moment with my boyfriend to my father :/, and what really alarms me is that I felt like I wanted it there, both mentally and physically. I was having a really nice time, so maybe the physical sensations got mixed in somehow, but it still worries me. I did my best not to ruminate in the moment and avoided checking. I tried to move on, but the feeling of genuinely liking the thought was so clear that it is hard to shake off. Has anyone else experienced something similar? This is one of the first times it has ever happened to this extent.
I deal pretty heavily with this. The last couple days, I’ve had what I think are urges. Something pops into my head intrusively and then what stems from that is me WANTING to just indulge in it even though it’s gross. I get worried bc I used to struggle w thoughts about my dad for a long time until eventually I just purposely thought of him while self pleasuring and got off to it. While that’s something I did, it is NOT me. It all stemmed from my mental health declining a couple years back, I was never this way before. So I get worried that it almost happened or might happen with my pocd cuz I could never live with myself if it did.
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