I’m really struggling with my ocd right now. I feel like I’m unhappy in my relationship and all I do is get frustrated. I’m questioning everything about my relationship and I’m worried I’m going to ruin everything.
Sorry you’re going through this❤️. Often when intrusive thoughts are accompanied by strong emotions we feel even more compelled to figure it all out and be sure all is well. In other words, we allow our emotions to dictate our behavior. Shala Nicely notes this is often a subtle compulsion we don’t realize we’re doing. She suggests rather than focusing on the fear, sadness or whatever feeling/emotion, find that one thing about the situation that brings joy-The way the sun is coming in the window, the sound of your loved one’s voice, shift your focus to any small joyful thing. Stop examining your feelings and shift focus to the present moment. Hope this helps.
I feel exactly the same way. I’m on a holiday with my SO and instead of cherishing every moment I have all sorts of doubts, intrusive thoughts and concerns. It’s kind of killing the mood and I’m scared it will damage the relationship
@bb88 Yea, I keep trying to be in the moment but I’ll be hugging him and questioning my love for him. I did a compulsion and i went on the internet, which made it worse!! It said that if you’re just experiencing ocd you have doubts but if you’re in the wrong relationship you feel unhappy. And I’ve been unhappy for a bit now since the ocd started which at this point I don’t even know if it’s ocd.
So my most current theme has been ROCD. It’s been nagging at me for the last 4 years. OCD makes me INCREDIBLY self critical and I often turn that internal voice on to my partner and can be incredibly critical of him. In essence, I’m almost subconsciously sabotaging my relationship which is the OPPOSITE of what I want. I’m looking for people who experience this same response and patterned behaviour. Share tips, in-the-moment awareness suggestions. Words of encouragement (not reassurance). OCD is such a trip lol
Does anyone else’s OCD take things and run with them? For example, my boyfriend got annoyed with me recently and responded kind of rudely to a question I asked him. I told him that wasn’t fair and he agreed and apologized immediately. But now I keep ruminating on it that maybe this is just him revealing his true self now that we’ve been together for a while. Maybe the real him is aggressive and he’s going to snap at me in the future and I’m going to be stuck in a relationship that is unhealthy! Also I’m fearing everyone reading this won’t believe me that my relationship is good and they’ll be judging me saying it’s not OCD. Struggling right now.
I’ve recently been having a lot of distress about my relationship and things surrounding it due to OCD. I was wondering if you have OCD, how does it present itself in your relationship(s) (thoughts, feelings, urges, images, etc)?
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