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- 6y
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- 6y
Your husband sounds like a douche ngl. Try to reason with him and if he refuses to help you and just wants to beat a person down who is already down then how much does he truly care? I have family who has a bunch of issues and not once do i blame them for their illnesses. To me he sounds like a narcissist.
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- 6y
I’m so sorry to hear that. How much does he know about OCD?
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- 6y
He knows about OCD. I've explained it to him and he seems to understand. But whenever we have a misunderstanding, he always brings up how worthless I am and blames it on my OCD. I know he's tired and frustrated, so am I. I feel like he still can't accept the fact that I have this disorder.. sometimes he wish I was different.
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- 6y
That's why I hate myself for having OCD. I can't be the kind of wife that he always wanted.
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- 6y
Please don’t hate yourself for having this. You are not your OCD and it has no bearing on who you are as a person. None of it is your fault❤️ It’s been very difficult for me to accept and live with this every day. In times past it has debilitated me so much that I could hardly get off my couch and to everyday tasks. I understand how it feels❤️
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- 6y
Dahlia again you should be a therapist. Stardust I’m going through the same stuff with my wife, but I can’t blame this ocd on nobody and all I can have is compassion for myself and the people that are affected by it. With this I’m not saying that he should treat like trash, but to have compassion for all the negativity that comes ocd experiences.
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- 6y
Your husband is a twunt you can do better ?
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- 19w
My ROCD is at an all time high right now. I have an appointment set up, but the wait is awful. My husband found one of my erp exercises where I write a sentence about him maybe not being the right partner. I had forgotten to throw it away. Of course it made him sad. I feel so ashamed and like I've damaged our relationship beyond repair. The sad part is, the thought comes,"if he ends it, at least I might get some relief". I feel like the worst wife.
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- 16w
i’m so tired of everything i can’t take the ocd on top of school life no friends no love never will find good love. i can’t be out publicly i’ll never be in the right body i’ll never be happy and stable i just want to dissapear. I will never escape my ocd and my gender. i can’t do this my entire life.
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- 15w
My husband told me recently he was going to hang out with a local friend he often goes to see. It got very late and I heard nothing from him. Tried calling and texting. Stayed up all night thinking maybe he was dead or injured. Logged into our cell phone account to see if I could find any recent location and discovered he had talked to someone on the phone that night but he was like 2 hours away from home at that time. And also saw a phone number he was spending hours on the phone with every day. I had been confronting him about his secrecy prior to that and he kept telling me it was this friend or that friend, or he was just taking the dog on a long walk or having a fire out back. He finally called me back in the morning and I yelled at him. He told me he was randomly with two friends from longer ago and had gotten drunk and passed out, and hadn't told me about these plans because I had a heart surgery a few weeks prior and health concerns and he didn't want to stress me out. He told me the phone number was a girl that he related to on trauma factors and that he views like a little sister. He said he didn't tell me because he was caught up in his trauma spilling of events he didn't share with a single person since they occurred to him 35 years ago, due to feelings of shame and anger, and that he thought I would view it as emotional cheating. I told him it really could be viewed as emotional cheating and in principle, honesty shouldn't be dependent upon the outcome... lying isn't justified because I would be upset by the truth. Since then, he's been more open with me and tells me when that girl is calling, talks to me about their conversations, answers her calls when I'm present. I talked to him about boundaries and things I'm uncomfortable with or bothered by and he changes those things. Especially because I have trauma from an emotionally abusive ex, having him lie to me when I directly questioned him about what I was perceiving or experiencing and telling me those experiences weren't real, when they actually WERE real, has really messed me up. Now when he wants to hang out with a friend, I don't trust it. But I'm handling these feelings in destructive OCD ways. I spend literally the entire time he's gone thinking and thinking and thinking about what if he's lying or what he might be doing instead of what he said. I call and text him intermittently and feel like all of my obsessive thoughts are confirmed if he doesn't answer right away. I'm always checking the phone history. The driving toll history. Scrutinizing everything. I cannot get out of this mindset. It's like this horrible mixture of emotional flashbacks and OCD. I don't want to live like this. I want to work on my relationship in productive ways. I want to be able to use my own time while my husband is gone. Even if he lied to me and is somewhere other than he said, I don't want to lie in bed just thinking and thinking and thinking for entire days and nights. I'm not sure what I'm really asking here. This is just the only place where I feel like I can share this without people thinking "wow she's crazy".
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