ROCD issues

Although being diagnosed with OCD nearly 2-3 years ago, I’ve just recently found out more symptoms that were related to it, ones that I had no idea of. For example, reassurance-seeking into my relationship with my boyfriend. Him and I have had a lot of issues over the past year and the stuff he has done made it worse. Even though he’s trying to change for me, I can’t help but feel like he’s lost my trust. And I know this isn’t true because within every promise he makes, I trust every word. I hate asking for his reassurance because I can’t control it at ALL. And no matter how much he tells me that he’s not mad and that I didn’t do anything wrong, it never feels like enough. He tries to cheer me up and deal with my mood swings, but I get angry and upset so easily that I start to feel like I’m ruining his life. I don’t want to ask for his reassurance on it either.

Relationship OCD

Username: ooopsie.daisyooopsie.daisy

Date posted: 45w ago

I’m sorry you’re going through this and I hope it gets easier for you! I have trouble with the same thing. I feel like I constantly need to know him & I are okay & everything’s fine & he’s not mad at me for some reason that I know doesn’t exist. I get angry and upset easily as well and it also makes me believe I’m ruining his life & he’s going to leave me. While I will never know EXACTLY what you are going through and how you feel—it certainly sounds to me like you aren’t in the boat completely alone. :)

Username: vic.tori.avic.tori.a

Date posted: 45w ago

i definitely feel this one, i have that constant need for an unattainable amount of reassurance. i always feel like hes going to leave, even if he doesnt really have a reason to. and talking to him about it is the last thing i wanna do bc i dont wanna burden him, or feel like im too much, even tho he wont even know something is wrong unless i communicate it with him. rooting for you, and hope things get better 🥹🫶

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!

Relationship OCD

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

People who have experienced ROCD- I had a rough day yesterday with my boyfriend due to acting on some compulsions. My compulsion is to seek reassurance. It was just not a good night because he was getting impatient, I was getting sensitive.. just not good. Anyway, we’re good now, but I just feel uneasy. My OCD always continues because after I complete a compulsion, I feel guilty and then I get more irrational thoughts that my boyfriend will leave me... thus I seek more reassurance. How do I get out of this insecure space in my head WITHOUT seeking reassurance again? Does this last a long time?

Username: lollypop48

Date posted: 1y ago

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Does anyone else’s OCD take things and run with them? For example, my boyfriend got annoyed with me recently and responded kind of rudely to a question I asked him. I told him that wasn’t fair and he agreed and apologized immediately. But now I keep ruminating on it that maybe this is just him revealing his true self now that we’ve been together for a while. Maybe the real him is aggressive and he’s going to snap at me in the future and I’m going to be stuck in a relationship that is unhealthy! Also I’m fearing everyone reading this won’t believe me that my relationship is good and they’ll be judging me saying it’s not OCD. Struggling right now.

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