So I had a good day yesterday but last night and today I've been ruminating over what I could have done better and what I messed up and it's basically ruining my memory of the day by making the less good stuff bigger in my mind than the good stuff. I'll have to bring this up with my therapist but in the meantime, does anyone have any thoughts on how to better focus on the good aspects?
It kinda sounds like perfectionism a bit or at least all or nothing thinking and downplaying the positives plus mental review as the rumination/compulsion. Sometimes could and should statements should be done only in moderation with our self-talk. I think acceptance of uncertainty and imperfection can work well here. "Maybe I could have done that better or maybe not," "maybe I messed up or maybe it's not as bad as a it seems," "maybe this wasn't ideal but that's ok" Lastly gratitude in a non toxic way can build some self compassion
I started ending my day with journaling because of this very reason. I would pick things apart and beat myself up for doing/not doing things. If you record your day before you can start picking it apart, then you can go back and read the journal entry you wrote down and see how happy you were in your writing. Best wishes 🖤
Any tips on how to not ruminate?
Any tips to stop ruminating?
Hey y’all, I have had a few stressful interactions at work with someone and I can’t stop thinking about what I wish I had said or “should” have said. It’s making me sick, and I hate the idea of going back and being around this person. It’s also making me question if I’m any good in my career in general. I know ruminating can be a compulsion, but idk how to stop. I’ve talked to a friend and prayed about it but I just want it to go away. Thanks ✨
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