Rage against the machine
- Date posted
- 1y
Nothing can help me
I don't even really know if this was ever OCD. Or maybe my obsession is real. I feel like this was all deeeep denial. Anyone else?
girlanongirlanon
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Hi, yeah. It comes and goes for me. Erp has helped though!
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- 1y
@girlanon I did ERP in therapy and it didn't really work, for some reason? Maybe o need another therapist, but some of the exposures didnt make me that anxious.. like they made me stare at a trans flag and it was jarring but only a little
girlanongirlanon
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- Date posted
- 1y
@Rage against the machine I'm actually finding the exact same issue, intentional exposures don't make me anxious but real life hits me over the head
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- 1y
@girlanon RIGHT?! Because I KNOW they're exposures and that I'm doing them due to my ocd , they're not really scary.
girlanongirlanon
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- Date posted
- 1y
@Rage against the machine Exactly! I'll get accustomed to the specific circumstances of the exposure, instead of what the exposure is supposed to be targeting. So I'll think I'm okay and let my guard down. And then BAM
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- 1y
@girlanon Let me ask.. how do you feel in your daily life now? I've stopped most of my compulsions such as searching and posting every waking hour and asking for reassurance and compulsive venting but the thoughts are still there and they feel real still but it's more a part of my daily life
girlanongirlanon
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- Date posted
- 1y
@Rage against the machine Right now, SOOCD is a much bigger theme for me. But TOCD is there too. Thoughts about femininity, gender, all of that. They float around, but I'm getting better at ignoring it. When it gets to me is when I get intrusive feelings of dysphoria, I really can't handle that
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- 1y
@girlanon Yea I understand.. sometimes when I'm getting changed or if I'm in the shower and I get so aware of my boobs, I start to feel nauseous and it drives me crazy. I also get feelings of wanting a penis and my mind gets so foggy about it bc I never know what's really real. I have NEVER desired a penis before in my entire life but now apparently that's changed ? Again idk if any of this is normal for TOCD but I'm trying hard to ignore it
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- 1y
@girlanon From what I remember, you're a lesbian right? So you get thoughts that maybe you like men? That sounds so tough❤️🩹 I hope it gets better soon
girlanongirlanon
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- Date posted
- 1y
@Rage against the machine Lmaooo I don't know, I thought I was bi for years, and then lesbian once ocd hit, but now I'm pretty sure I'm straight and my therapist agrees with me. She thinks the girl I like (liked? Unsure?) was a compulsion to prove my queerness to myself, so it's a fucking mess. Almost certain I'm not a lesbian though, I'm really into guys right now. It ends up bleeding into my TOCD because I'm like wait, maybe it's that I want to BE the guy, and then spirals
girlanongirlanon
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- Date posted
- 1y
@Rage against the machine Because I identified as bi before OCD (came to that realization at 20) part of me feels that I must be bi, which is what I want to be, it felt right for years. But my therapist really thinks I'm not and it's my ocd just wanting to be part of the queer community. So now I think she's right, even though I was so sure she was wrong at first.
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- 1y
@girlanon That sounds so confusing .. but why is your therapist saying that?? Do you have intrusive thoughts about being bi? Does it give you anxiety?? Because why would that make it OCD ?
girlanongirlanon
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@Rage against the machine I don't. Honestly at this point I feel nothing. But I'm not scared of being bi, I'm scared of being straight. I thought I liked a girl. Who liked me. We went on a date right around when I switched therapists and I got so triggered. I started doing exposures about dating lesbians as a straight girl, which i was so scared of, and my therapist also said she thinks I'm straight, and my feelings for that girl are now totally gone. I wish they weren't. And not only are they gone, but I also find myself constantly feeling like I'd only ever be happy with a man
girlanongirlanon
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- Date posted
- 1y
I'm not attracted to women often. I panic sometimes about it, about the fact i always crushed on boys, have celeb crushes on men, etc. But I thought I was attracted sexually to women, mostly masculine ones, sometimes too and was just so attached to men I didn't feel the romantic side. But then I started feeling so repulsed by her femininity and when she wasn't totally masculine, basically like i just wanted her to be a boy really
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- 1y
@girlanon I hate the feeling of being repulsed by things that never crossed your mind before. I understand. I've never had HOCD but I have had relationship OCD where I've lost attraction to my boyfriend and thought it would never come back. It did. Just don't label yourself for now .. I'm doing that with my gender i don't have a specific label. They make things harder
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@girlanon Plus having crushes on boys growing up is not a big deal. We are conditioned to believe that's how it's supposed to be as girls, I have tons of gay female friends who have crushed on many boys. It's not always as black and white as you think although ocd makes it feel like that ☹️
star1232star1232
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- 1y
Can we talk please
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- Date posted
- 25w
i dont know if its gonna get better
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sofiaraaah7
- Date posted
- 24w
It must be real now
I’m struggling badly. I did something about a month ago which I now realize was probably testing, but what scares me is I feel like I liked it, which is horrifying. What’s even worse though, is after I did it, I was able to brush it off quickly and not be too bothered by it, as I was still very anxious on other thoughts I was experiencing. Now those thoughts are meaningless and THIS is what’s causing tremendous anxiety, but the fact that I didn’t feel anxiety about it after I did it seals the deal for me. I mean, did feel anxious and guilty after I did it, but I was able to dismiss it somewhat quickly, and I remember that memory came up a couple of times within the month after I did it but like I said, it hasn’t too hard to dismiss it. I really feel like it’s denial. The fact that I wasn’t that anxious about it and tried to justify it/dismiss it HAS to mean it’s been denial all this time, there just no way this is OCD :( Right now I’m anxious about the fact that I might’ve liked it AND the fact that I wasn’t anxious about it for a while. It is really just a torment to ruminate on, and I would never do that thing again, but the fact that I did it and felt like I liked it is beyond terrifying. I feel like I have proof now, I’m trying to figure out why I did it and what it meant, and why I wasn’t super anxious the following weeks after, I mean it WAS uncomfortable to think back on, but I feel like the fact I wasn’t super anxious about it means I was in denial or repressing my true self. I am so so scared. I’ve been worried about this for the past week and a half :( (This is all centered on the same theme btw.)
Lu06
- Date posted
- 9w
Anyone help?
I want to start by specifying that I am not diagnosed. This feels too real, yesterday I was fine about this, I didn't feel much, I didn't think much and I felt fine, Today I woke up from dreams I had (not explicit) but I really feel like I am this, I don't know how to explain it, I feel like I sexualize everything, I feel like I like it and it makes me uncomfortable, I always feel different from everyone else, but in a bad way. I don't know how to explain it, but I really feel like this is who I am, and what happens to me is that I can't identify with OCD. I avoid everything that reminds me of this And I feel that sometimes I downplay the issue of my "OCD" as if it were not serious and it is
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