What if I don’t have ROCD, or what if I do but it’s still not the right relationship. I’m so freaking confused and lost and empty right now and I’m frustrated. I don’t know what to do. I keep focusing on all the flaws and shortcomings and I’m so overly critical and it’s annoying.
The same thing is happening with me, it’s so scary. Spending quality time with my partner helps, it reminds me why I love them and is a good distraction from intrusive thoughts. It doesn’t always work perfectly, but adding on good times to outweigh all of the questions/negativity can really help make the questions of flaws and issues seem ridiculous for me to consider, it’s been helping a lot lately. Of course I still have intrusive thoughts and I’m in therapy, but I don’t feel as stressed about it as I was when I felt like I needed to hide from my partner to prevent thinking badly of them or finding “flaws”, or even just to hide my feelings from them
hi!:) i was in the same boat as you a few weeks back. it started since November of last year up until last week, that's when it was super bad and very overwhelming. i felt so hopeless and so confused and wanted to give up!! but being present with my partner and remembering all the good times we had together has helped me a lot. working in therapy with these thoughts has also helped and made me realize that these intrusive thoughts are false! focus on the present and try to create beautiful moments with your partner and when you do, make sure to sit with that happy feeling and soak it in! so next time you have intrusive thoughts, you can look back at those moments and know that the thoughts are false. hope this helps! this has helped me:)
I’m struggling with doing ERP with my rOCD right now. I feel like I have no loving feelings toward my fiancé, and if those feelings are so fickle, maybe we shouldn’t be together. What if I have rOCD AND am in the wrong relationship? Although I guess there is no WRONG relationship as long as there are no major red flags (which there aren’t). But maybe I just don’t want to be married to him? Today I feel annoyed by everything he says and does. I hate having to go through this all the time. I feel so tired.
How am I to know whether I have ROCD or if I should leave. I keep having critical and negative thoughts about everything my partner says and does and the way he looks and acts and his personality: literally everything! But I know he’s not the problem, I am, because he’s not toxic or bad. So how do I know if it’s ROCD or if Im trying to force myself to like the wrong person? I’m so lost and confused. He’s such an amazing person and I don’t want to hurt him. I just wish these thoughts would go away and I could see him through rose coloured glasses. But I’m feeling so discouraged and getting tired of trying.
I’m starting to be convinced it’s not ROCD and I don’t know what to do anymore 😔 I’m very irritable around my partner now and extremely overly critical of his social behaviours and the way he talks and acts and just everything. And I keep seeing other people talking about their symptoms and their intrusive thoughts and how they know they don’t believe those things, and I feel like those things are real flaws that genuinely bug me and it feels real and I’m worried it’s not OCD anymore and I’m scared. I feel like I’m losing touch with reality because of how much I spend in my head worrying and trying to figure out if what I’m thinking is bad.
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