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Does anyone else see someone attractive of the same sex and start intrusively thinking things like “cute” or something beyond just acknowledging them as good looking? I avoid looking at good looking same sex people on tv shows because I get those intrusive thoughts and it makes me question what does that mean of me. I don’t want to be gay and I feel so uncomfortable and it feels like denial every time I try and do a compulsion. It’s hard to look at men on TV shows because my mind comes up crazy stuff and I don’t know what it means

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

Hey! I actually had sexual orientation ocd growing up and you will get through it. I used to go the exact same thing. Take a second to evaluate how you are truly feeling. Separate your ocd thoughts and feelings to what your “normal” brain is thinking and feeling. There are many times I would question my sexuality when I in fact knew I was straight. I would do the same thing as you before I started to separate what I was ACTUALLY feeling versus the intrusive thoughts that were coming in. I also went through therapy and started ssris soon after this which helped me the most! Hope this helps!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

did you recover from HOCD?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

*through the

Username: Daisy527!Daisy527!

Date posted: 41w ago

Yes! I remember doing this in middle school for a few years - I fixated on whether or not I thought girls were pretty or if I was just actually gay when I knew I wasn’t, you’re not alone I did the exact same thing

Username: Daisy527!Daisy527!

Date posted: 41w ago

@Daisy527! Like the other comment says, separate the two thoughts - your “normal” brain and OCD brain and recognize that if you were gay, you’d probably know!

Username: My OCD AcademiaMy OCD Academia

Date posted: 41w ago

@Daisy527! I think It’s normal to find someone attractive and not want to be with them romantically. But my OCD brain tells me “oh, you found him good looking! see! i told you!”

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

@My OCD Academia Yes! That is totally normal! I was the same with my ocd. It would bagger me and “test me” to see if I thought anything more than another person being attractive. That’s when you pause and reflect on what your actual thought is versus what your ocd is trying to make you believe. In a sense talk to your ocd, tell yourself your truth and the facts and reason with what your ocd is trying to make you feel. It’s hard at first, but pausing to reflect when your having these thoughts is crucial!

Username: Daisy527!Daisy527!

Date posted: 41w ago

@My OCD Academia Yep, exactly. Mine did the same thing

Username: GayleGermit11GayleGermit11

Date posted: 41w ago

hey, i get how tough and confusing those thoughts can feel, especially when they cause so much distress and questioning. 🌈 it sounds really challenging. you might wanna try "unstuck," it's this new ai-powered therapy tool specifically designed for ocd (just google "unstuck app for ocd"). my nocd therapist recommended it to me, and honestly, it's been a game-changer for me this past month. could be worth checking out for some support. 🌟

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

do you also get feelings like attraction feels super real as well?

Username: My OCD AcademiaMy OCD Academia

Date posted: 41w ago

@Anonymous yes, especially if I consider the person good looking. that becomes super stressful to me

Username: crystalwolf1053

Date posted: 5y ago

Does anybody have Sexuality OCD? Because I am pretty sure that I am straight but then suddenly about a week ago I stopped going guys attractive and it really scared me. I was convinced I was gay! I tried to like a girl but my brain was telling me that it was wrong. That was when I thought ‘OMG I DONT HAVE A SEXUALITY’ and I got really scared. Then yesterday I thought a girl was really cute but then saw a guy and thought he was gorgeous! And then I was like no I have to be straight!!!!! What do I do? Does anybody have this problem?

Username: Tolly537

Date posted: 5y ago

Ok I have a question for y’all. After you have a good moment with a guy, like when you think about him and want to be with him and it feels good, does anyone get the intrusive thought “what if I’m romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to women?” Because that just came up for me and it is not fun and very worrying. Because I have been aroused by lesbian porn (I did this before my HOCD intrusive thoughts started) and now I’m worried because I was aroused by that I can only be sexually attracted to women ?

Username: HelpMeHealPl...

Date posted: 1y ago

Question

I'm a straight man that suffers from SO-OCD/HOCD. If you have read this and you have the same subset of OCD PLEASE comment. Do you have thoughts about a person on the same gender that says "he is cute" or "he is sexy" or "he is my type",she if youre a woman. I do not like those kinds thoughts, in fact i loathe it, but I have learned not to give those kinds of thoughts power. But i'm just curious about if you have those kind of thoughts I have a girlfriend that I would VERY VERY much want to get married to, but im just afraid that maybe in the end I might end up hurting her because maybe I'm gay. I do want to be gay and I have nothing against gay people, its just I want to have a happy marriage with my girlfriend.

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