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I’ve been there too ??♀️ but my husband did love this girl and they were still friends (until I got really mad and told him to stop talking to her, yes, crazy, I know) but I’m constantly stalking her and comparing myself to her. Last year my rocd was pretty bad, and that’s when all of this started.
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It got really bad because at the time I was fighting a lot with my husband. I had to let it all out, all my insecurities, all the “what if he’s still in love with her”, “what if he talks to her because he likes her more than me”, etc, he realized that those things were hurting me and he stopped talking to her, so in a way that calmed me down. Now i just dismiss the thoughts. Whenever I start with the “what ifs” i just think to myself “well I guess I’ll never know” or “he may or may not be talking to her”. Rocd it’s pretty hard to deal with, but I just think of the fact that he’s with me, not with her, that he loves me and that he chose me to have a family with. You have to think of the fact that your boyfriend can’t control the feelings she still has, and that he has nothing to do with that. He’s with you, let her be in love with him, as long as he doesn’t feel the same way. You could try blocking her. Also, you know that us girls can be real b*tches, so there’s a possibility that she’s putting those photos to mess with your mind, so ??♀️ don’t let her get to you.
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Reading this aboutpicture of your bf dog pissed me off Xd
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I'd be pissed off too. But what your bf says about this girl ?
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How old are you and them? This relationship sounds like a drama. But I understand that you can't stop stalking her . You think this stalking is from ocd ?
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I like older men too Xd I'm 26. I don't know how can I help. But I had an internet stalking obsession once too. I think it's from insecurity . I was stalking one guy all the time but this story is loong. Istopped when I was so exhausted that I couldn't stalk him anymore cause I realised it doesn't have any sense and I should leave his past alone cause it's non of my business what he was doing before. And actually I was hurting myself and I wouldn't be so insecure if he was respecting my feelings . But it was different situation i also wanted to compare myself with his ex ( like let the thought like: " am i better than her"? To go away) .i think if you find reason why you're so insecure with this girl you'll find peace. Every situation is very individual I can't do much . Listen to your heart girl.
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Thanks girl
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Thank you girl , that made me feel better
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You’re welcome, and I’m here if you need to talk
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So long story short they just weren’t compatible they met in Peru ( she’s Peruvian ) and they talked and started dating. Then she came to Texas to live with him. But he kicked her out and he said it was a living nightmare being with her. The neighbors told me they screamed at eachother all of the time. Then she went and lived on her own but in the same city, then after a year she wrote him a love letter saying that she needs to break up with him but she loves him more than any man she loved before ... then they started talking again after a month or two but then he was like “nah I don’t like you” and broke up with her for good. Then she became depressed and blocked him on Facebook and now they don’t talk at all and haven’t for 4 years
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He says he cares 0% about her
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But he’s not able to see her profile cause he’s blocked
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And he said even when they dated he never looked at her profile
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Okay so don’t freak out but my boyfriend is 41 and I’m 24 She is 35 And yes I think it is because I just constantly check her for no reason
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How did you get over it?
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I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips
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For some reason, my brain gets upset when my boyfriend hangs out with other people. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but sometimes I can’t help it. I understand that he has a life outside of our relationship, and that’s great. He reassures me all the time, in fact, he often tells me he would rather spend time with me than with his friends. He’s a perfect partner, and I love him more than anything. However, I don’t want this to become an issue in our relationship. I know why my mind thinks this way, even though I don’t believe it to be true. My brain keeps telling me that he would rather be somewhere else than with me. Those words repeat in my head every time he’s out with friends, and I don’t know why. I want to find a solution to this obsessive and jealous thought so that I don’t ruin his time with friends. I really need help with this issue.❤️
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