JBird88
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- 6y
TqhTqh
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- 6y
I’ve been there too ??♀️ but my husband did love this girl and they were still friends (until I got really mad and told him to stop talking to her, yes, crazy, I know) but I’m constantly stalking her and comparing myself to her. Last year my rocd was pretty bad, and that’s when all of this started.
TqhTqh
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- 6y
It got really bad because at the time I was fighting a lot with my husband. I had to let it all out, all my insecurities, all the “what if he’s still in love with her”, “what if he talks to her because he likes her more than me”, etc, he realized that those things were hurting me and he stopped talking to her, so in a way that calmed me down. Now i just dismiss the thoughts. Whenever I start with the “what ifs” i just think to myself “well I guess I’ll never know” or “he may or may not be talking to her”. Rocd it’s pretty hard to deal with, but I just think of the fact that he’s with me, not with her, that he loves me and that he chose me to have a family with. You have to think of the fact that your boyfriend can’t control the feelings she still has, and that he has nothing to do with that. He’s with you, let her be in love with him, as long as he doesn’t feel the same way. You could try blocking her. Also, you know that us girls can be real b*tches, so there’s a possibility that she’s putting those photos to mess with your mind, so ??♀️ don’t let her get to you.
JamarcelineJamarceline
- Date posted
- 6y
Reading this aboutpicture of your bf dog pissed me off Xd
JamarcelineJamarceline
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- 6y
I'd be pissed off too. But what your bf says about this girl ?
JamarcelineJamarceline
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- 6y
How old are you and them? This relationship sounds like a drama. But I understand that you can't stop stalking her . You think this stalking is from ocd ?
JamarcelineJamarceline
- Date posted
- 6y
I like older men too Xd I'm 26. I don't know how can I help. But I had an internet stalking obsession once too. I think it's from insecurity . I was stalking one guy all the time but this story is loong. Istopped when I was so exhausted that I couldn't stalk him anymore cause I realised it doesn't have any sense and I should leave his past alone cause it's non of my business what he was doing before. And actually I was hurting myself and I wouldn't be so insecure if he was respecting my feelings . But it was different situation i also wanted to compare myself with his ex ( like let the thought like: " am i better than her"? To go away) .i think if you find reason why you're so insecure with this girl you'll find peace. Every situation is very individual I can't do much . Listen to your heart girl.
JBird88JBird88
- Date posted
- 6y
Thanks girl
JBird88JBird88
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- 6y
Thank you girl , that made me feel better
TqhTqh
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- 6y
You’re welcome, and I’m here if you need to talk
JBird88JBird88
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- 6y
So long story short they just weren’t compatible they met in Peru ( she’s Peruvian ) and they talked and started dating. Then she came to Texas to live with him. But he kicked her out and he said it was a living nightmare being with her. The neighbors told me they screamed at eachother all of the time. Then she went and lived on her own but in the same city, then after a year she wrote him a love letter saying that she needs to break up with him but she loves him more than any man she loved before ... then they started talking again after a month or two but then he was like “nah I don’t like you” and broke up with her for good. Then she became depressed and blocked him on Facebook and now they don’t talk at all and haven’t for 4 years
JBird88JBird88
- Date posted
- 6y
He says he cares 0% about her
JBird88JBird88
- Date posted
- 6y
But he’s not able to see her profile cause he’s blocked
JBird88JBird88
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- 6y
And he said even when they dated he never looked at her profile
JBird88JBird88
- Date posted
- 6y
Okay so don’t freak out but my boyfriend is 41 and I’m 24 She is 35 And yes I think it is because I just constantly check her for no reason
JBird88JBird88
- Date posted
- 6y
How did you get over it?
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- Date posted
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