when something happens i connect eveything between. like i was wearing my smart watch even though it hasnt charged. then i said its like your relationship. you dont have love but you keep going cause you used to that. and im doing this in everything. im connecting everything to my relationship and its so hard. does this happening to you?
Yess all the time!! I'm mixing a lot of feelings and thoughts like this. I feel (in my little experience) it's because you're trying to find something to worry and let's be honest, sometimes they're exaggerated! The most recent for me was that I heard a breakup song that talked about how the girl felt free and was taking care of herself etc. Then I realized I was doing that exact same things while being in a relationship and thought "what if I'm preparing for a breakup?" Or "Am I living a duel or something?" Sometimes it's just coincidence and just a song! Just like your watch. Not everything in life has a meaning (that phrase actually helps tho)
i always do this. because of this i stopped listening to music and watching tv series. cause i always be like in the song that says smthng like that and im like that bla bla. it is so tiring. do you experience rocd too cause i need help about it im so new to these stuffs :(
@anonymusss I haven't been diagnosed with this, but I relate too much with all and yes!!! You're mind its trying to play tricks on you. For me, the aha! Moment I accepted I may had ROCD was when I was questioning my relationship bc of the name of my partner "Isn't his name too x? Should I be with someone with a different name?" For me, that's just ridiculously superficial jajajaja I imagined my self giving a smack on the head. Like if my friend told me that I would be like "Really? :/" jsjs so yeah. It's normal for the brain to try to reflect things and try to connect all, it's like the horoscopes. If they tell you "Ah libra, you'll have something bad happening today" then you'll be searching all the bad things of that day, but if the statement was with good things your brain would be searching all the good things of the day. Idk if this helps, but yeah you're not alone, our brain just hate us jajajajaja
@Anonymous what are you doing to maintain your relationship and not affected from your thoughts i know i love my boyfriend so muchh but there is always what if you dont what if you leave him and make him misarable and you will be misarable etc.and those thoughts are making me cry and so sad. i dont know what to do :(
@anonymusss Ok first of all I feel you, been there. I'm not like the expert of these things, but something that helps is to ankowledge the effort you're doing ti stay. If you didn't loved your bf you wouldn't even be here. Second, try to distract yourself, I know it's hard but try, go out, breathe, draw, etc. (For me drawing patterns help). Three, and the one that helped me with my heavier crisis, aknoledge the thoughts "OKAY, what if I do want to break up?" Then I felt a ball of heat fall into my stomach. Just accepting you're having these thoughts and not fighting against them helps them to go away. You know the truth, that you want to be here, sometimes you just need to sit with grief and fear and hope tomorrow to be better. You're dealing with big stuff here sweetheart, yo got this
@Anonymous thank you so muchh you are so sweet. i know that exact feeling of stomachache. i guess identfying the thoughts gonna help thank you so much. i hope you be the best of yourself š
do you ever get so tired and used to all of this that you dont even want to react to the thoughts or do the compulsionsā¦ like, i had a talk with my boyfriend he tried to make a ātalk therapy ā with me maybe i will do a post about that and i felt better after talking with him (since i have rocd amd he wants to help me) and ofc i still have some thoughts and a bad feeling in me but i dont want to act on my thoughts or give them atention bc im so over this. is it normal reaction??? am i faking my ocd???
everytime i go out with my bf, he annoys me so much, but i get easily annoyed, he is just being himself and im so so si irritated by him, and i act out and i am rude to him, today i have upset him and he stopped talking to me. i font know what is wrong with me, i dont lnow if i like him, if i still have feelings, if i only want the ideea of the relationship, what if im only attached to him. i dont know anything, i have so many doubts. im so drained, i diny even know if i care that i upset him. i dont know. what if i dont care???
for me itās getting to the point where i donāt feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. iām trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. itās like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i canāt catch a break. itās like i want to be with him so bad but my brain wonāt allow me. any advice?
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