I keep on wondering if I really love my partner. I have been doubting from the beginning and it has been 3 years ! I’m tired of this and so is my partner. I just want to love him, stop worrying and just be happy with him. I just always have this feeling that something is not right and that I should feel more intense feelings or I should not feel or think certain things.
You know you love him when your feelings for him are a comfortable love you only experience when your with/talking with him. You don’t really need to feel head over heels intense feelings for your bf every day! You having feelings of happiness just being with him is perfectly fine. That’s what a relationship is your happiness when you see him talk to him laugh with him etc. sure maybe you do feel intense feelings at times but most of the time relationships could just be simple feelings like the happiness he brings you. I know its hard but calm your worries for a moment I’m sorry your in a spot rn I hope you feel better today
@ughhhh Thank you it really helps especially now that we are in a long distance relationship so the emotions are not as strong as my love language is touch
I’m just so scared for it to just be denial because there are things that make me think I don’t actually love him (e.g. sometimes I don’t feel anything for him especially when we are apart in a long distance relationship, I don’t relate to “your happiness is my happiness”, I mostly and mainly feel connected to him when we are physically together). I’m so afraid to not love him because I really want to love him I don’t want to break up he makes me happy…
i totally get how exhausting and confusing it must feel to have these constant doubts about your relationship, especially when all you want is to just enjoy your love for your partner without second-guessing. it sounds really tough to have been dealing with this for 3 years and wanting so badly to just feel happy and secure in your relationship. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called "unstuck?" when i was going through something similar, this free AI OCD therapy tool (unstuckmyOCD.com/try) that my NOCD therapist recommended really made a difference for me. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it's designed to provide personalized, step-by-step support for those moments when your OCD tries to take over, offering guidance similar to what you'd receive from an OCD therapist. it's been a game-changer for me, and i honestly think it could help you find some peace in your relationship. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3
@ZeldaKorr32 Oh my god that sounds so helpful I will definitely try this out thank you so much !
@Lysaribeiro - you're welcome! i hope that it will really help youu.
I’ve been dealing with something similar, i’ve been with my boyfriend almost 2 years and we were a thing about a year before but we hadn’t been spending as much time together due to work and school and he left to washington for a couple days during mother’s day and i was feeling doubtful of my feelings towards him questioning if i loved him or not and im still dealing with these thoughts and i know i love him and i am excited for the future with him but i understand those thoughts in a way. Ive found it’s best to very slowly refute the thoughts and think about how it would be without him and it’s really helped me get back to normal
I feel like I am constantly questioning every word and action of my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop. It is driving us both insane. It has gotten to the point where I am picking apart the smallest things and making him explain them if he does not word it a certain way. How do i stop? :(
I’ve worked on my ocd for years now, and more often than not it’s manageable, but when my ROCD flares up it really bothers me. I’ve been with my partner 7 years everything is fine realistically but after a triggering argument I keep getting intrusive thoughts that my partner is cheating on me. I have no proof because there’s been no real reason to believe it other than minor changes in his behavior (he recently was laid off and is a bit stressed so it’s understandable.) I can tell I’m going through ocd because it’s leading me to feel the need to check, ask reassurance, and think things through constantly. I’m trying to get over it but it makes me worry if it is really happening and I’m not having ocd. Even though my partner has never given me a solid reason to believe they would do that to me. It’s just so hard because I feel like no matter how many times he proves to me he’s not my brain still comes up with a reason it may be true. I also don’t want to be a toxic partner and I have explained to him what is happening. I just can’t seem to get any comfort and my brain continuously has been taking moments that were probably innocent and turning it into potential evidence. Has anyone else dealt with this theme? I feel like I’m going crazy
So i use to get a lot of relationship OCD. I recently got into a relationship two months ago. i have been experiencing some relationship OCD thoughts like “do i like my partner enough” and to complete the compulsion of telling them that i am having this thought. I use to be able to conquer them but after bringing it up in therapy it got worse. does anyone have any recommendations on how to conquer this compulsion and thought? I don’t want to scare my partner away.
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