how do i go everyday without ruminating about ex?

@Boosboots What’s been helping me is mindfulness practice, and telling myself that “I’m not my thoughts”. It’s been hard but worth it! It’s hard to catch these thoughts sometimes though, best of luck to you!

@bubbless Sorry! Just to clarify because I feel like the way I wrote my comment made it sound differently , but my ex didn’t cheat. We broke up almost 2 years ago and I found out he was with someone else about less than a year later. Regardless, the ruminating was horrible. Thinking that maybe he DID cheat at some point and that’s why he was able to move on a little fast, if he stopped loving me and just didn’t tell me, etc. there are resources that you can refer to like how someone commented just now :). YouTube and OCD accounts on instagram work wonders!

@bubbless thank you so much, honestly! I know it’s normal but at this point it’s become really painful. At first, i thought it was going to be okay. Then they got mad at me all of a sudden, saying things that i never did. It hurt me, I was grieving too! There’s so many “ifs” right now. I know they would never do that intentionally to hurt me. I’m trying to give myself space and my partner some space too. I’m hoping it all works out, at least in some way. Thanks again!