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Can anyone relate?
How is that I was so worried about my boyfriend wanting to break up with me and no I’m so worried that it’s actually me that wants to break up? I want to cry
How is that I was so worried about my boyfriend wanting to break up with me and no I’m so worried that it’s actually me that wants to break up? I want to cry
I've experienced things pretty similar and actually experiencing something similar right now. Ocd is the doubting disorder and with the doubts it can trick are mind and make all the worries and thoughts seem true but you have to find the right coping strategies for you and understand what none ocd you would want 🩷🩷 Think about things logically, I know that's hard with ocd but it can really help - think are there any reasons to break up with him? Would I think this before my ocd? You've got this, im proud of you for even making this posy I know how hard it is 🩷
@EllieDuffy21 Thank you ❤️
hey, i totally get how confusing and upsetting those thoughts can be, especially when they flip like that 😔 it's really tough dealing with those kinds of uncertainties. have you heard about "unstuck"? it's an ai-powered therapy tool specifically for ocd (unstuckmyocd.com). it's been a game changer for me this past month and might offer you some relief too. another member here recommended it, and i just wish i'd known about it sooner!
@TanyaShelby22 I will try it out! Thank you ❤️
@Whyyocd - you're welcome!!
Can anyone validate my feelings/felt the same way. I overthink a lot about my relationship, but I especially worry my boyfriend will randomly change behaviors and become toxic. He’s never had toxic behaviors but I worry at some point in our relationship he could possibly change, and it consumes me sometimes.
Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a short period of time....and he's head over heels for me...at least he says so. All the time I'm so scared he's going to break up with me or any time something is uncomfortable I shut down and think I did something or he's thinking about me in a negative way and I don't know how to stop it. He doesn't do anything to seem like he wants to break up with me, but any time he does something a little different then normal I immediately think of the worst. If he's being really quiet I'll be thinking *is he going to break up with me* *does he not want to be with me* *is he just hanging out with me right now because he wants a girlfriend to pass the time* all of that stuff. And honestly I'm so scared..... because what if my thoughts are true?
Lately, I’ve been feeling like something has changed in me — like I have changed, and like my feelings for my boyfriend have faded or shifted. It’s one of the worst sensations I’ve ever felt. I keep thinking things like “I don’t love him like before” or “I’ve changed too much to feel anything now.” Sometimes when he calls me or makes a joke, I get irritated for no reason. I feel like I’m being mean, cold, disconnected — and then guilt crashes down on me. I remember how I used to feel: warm, close, expressive. And now… I just don’t feel the same. That makes me think: “Maybe I’ve fallen out of love.” But I’m also constantly anxious. I overthink every moment. I can’t relax into anything without analyzing if what I feel is “right.” It makes me wonder — maybe I haven’t actually changed. Maybe I’m just overwhelmed and tired from months of these thoughts and fears. I don’t know how to feel right now. I just want to believe that this disconnection isn’t proof that love is gone, but a sign that I’m scared and burnt out.
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