Break up and lots of stress last year

Hi everybody I have a quick question. I have been dating for a while and unfortunately we had to break up because of all the fights and troubles. We also had really really nice moments and I am pretty sad it didn't work out. Mostly had something to do with me boyfriends past. I have always been an overthinker, had lots of anxiety and stress etc. But last year was really bad sometimes. Now my question is; I am so scared due to all the stress (alternating with really good moment) causing cancer. Stress was always just 1 or 2 days, so not months on end. But I know stress decreaseds your immunsystem and therefore can cause cancer. I am not looking for reassurance regarding if stress does or does not cause cancer. But what I wanted to know is: is it my fault when eventually I do get cancer due to the stress? It was really a mix of things and the breakup was nobody's fault but it feels so annoying that now I don't have a boyfriend anymore and maybe I get cancer from all the stress... so I am beating myself up for not ending it sooner. There was no physical fight or anything, it just didn't work out and we both know this is for the best. Still I am mad at myself for all the stress I caused myself

Anonymas

Date posted: 51w ago

It is not ur fault i am a nutritionist and i worked and did research on cancer cells yes stress can cause cancer but u have to know that our body is stressed physically or emotionnaly everyday by moving change of température change of our mood our food behaviour ..ect yes u can make urself ill but u can prevent some stuff too try to eat healthy and have some healthy habits to feel better abt this type of thoughts and let urself the time to heal from ur breakup dont force urself to feel better quickly bcs that is stressful to the body let urself the time eat well do some meditation maybe i hope u ll feel better soon ❤️🌸

Sunshine1982

Date posted: 51w ago

Pretty funny but I saw my profile had a man avatar and I am a woman so I thought let's change it

Everythingzen

Date posted: 51w ago

You have to learn to be gentle with yourself. We are dealing with a very debilitating and insufferable disease that a majority of people can’t fathom nor understand. I too went through a breakup from a long term relationship and while I know it was for the best it just adds to guilt and shame of another unsuccessful relationship. I live in constant fight of flight as I’m sure many of us do and one thing I can say is that you hopefully can realize that this isn’t your fault. You can’t help it that you have a “spicy” brain. I hate when drs say “try to lower your stress.” Well I have multiple mental health issues and my brain is deceiving me always so that doesn’t feel like an option especially living with the unknowns. What ifs, horrendous depression and trauma. People who don’t stress and eat well and take great care of themselves still get cancer. I feel bad that you feel like you’re going to give yourself cancer. It wouldn’t be your fault if you did and I hope you can understand this. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. I pray that you find xome comfort and have grace with yourself as well as all of us. Hugs ❤️

Sunshine1982

Date posted: 51w ago

Thank you!! I have been stressed with ocd all my life almost. Luckily I do eat very well, no drinking etc, even though times are stressful so maybe that levels it out. This post is relly helpful, thank you so much

Anonymas

Date posted: 51w ago

Maybe taking some tisanes will help u i used to drink cardamom tisane or chamomille when i feel really stressed maybe it will help u too

Sunshine1982

Date posted: 51w ago

@Sofi.a Yes I can try that, thanks!!

Sunshine1982

Date posted: 50w ago

Thank you so very very much, this post literally made me cry, because I can relate so much. Thank you a million times, you all are great, thank you!!!!

Sunshine1982

Date posted: 50w ago

And you are right, I can't help it that I have severe ocd. I tried almost everything out there to make sure this doesn't totally suffocates me. It is true, how are we supposed to lower stress. Like I didn't think of that 😕 we will just carry on and do our very best to live a nice life

pagemlou

Date posted: 25w ago

Anyone else constantly worried about their health?

I’ve been vaping for about three years now. I’ve tried to quit multiple times but with the people around me, also do, and it makes it difficult to stop buying it and or hitting it. My OCD is based off obsessive thoughts on my health and worrying about natural bodily feelings. Twitches, random pains throughout my body, scare me and make me feel like I can’t control my thoughts. When I vape, i’ve heard about lungs collapsing and I worry about it. I want to stop, but can’t seem to. If I have a headache I worry about a brain tumor, when there are many reasons I could have one. When I mess up a sentence I worry about a stroke, and check my face to see if it’s even. I worry about cancer on a regular basis, a small pain or lymph node swollen, i convince myself it’s cancer. I go to the doctor often because of this. It’s scary, that there is a possibility it could happen. I hate this.

Sammie2303

Date posted: 24w ago

Help

Hello everyone! I’m new to this app and I am just looking for some help or any advice. I am 20 years old and female. I constantly think about the past and what has happened to me and my boyfriend. (Mostly about him and his ex and if he liked her more). No matter how hard I try these thoughts just flood my mind and nothing that I do helps me avoid them. I have always had issues with constant thoughts about the past and things that are stressing me out, and they just don’t go away. I thought that the thoughts about my boyfriend’s ex would fade but i’ve been with him for 2 years now and they are still constant everyday. I feel like I have to know what she’s up to and check her social media daily, if not multiple times in a day. I also check my ex’s social media daily. I don’t want to do this but I feel like I have to, and If I try not to it just makes me feel anxious. My ex was verbally and physically abusive, I was 15-17 and we were together for those two years. I have gone to PTSD therapy and I still have thoughts over and over about what happened and I wonder if it was even real. Or if I’m even remembering what happened correctly. I have constant thoughts about him and what happened between us. I also have issues such as kind of twitching when i’m really stressed out or something isn’t “right” to me. I constantly have to clean and put things in their place. I have a routine that I do everyday, such as showering in a certain order, doing my skincare in a certain order, and doing things at work in a certain order. Is this normal? And how do I help these thoughts go away… Because they have gotten so bad that it distracts me all day and is interfering with having a future with my boyfriend.

Zeph113

Date posted: 23w ago

please I need insight

Does anyone else feel like their partner would break up with them for every gross thought they have attached to ocd, so you distance yourself and now you’re overwhelmed by everything in your relationship and feel like you made the spark go away/ don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so stressed with school too I don’t know whether to take a break in the relationship to better myself to meet their needs.

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