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Please I'm very sad (about daydreaming)
Do someone here daydreaming and notice it goes wrong? And you getting so much anxiety and start thinking about it...? Like do you start thinking you did on purpose?
Do someone here daydreaming and notice it goes wrong? And you getting so much anxiety and start thinking about it...? Like do you start thinking you did on purpose?
I daydream a lot, whenever I’m in a bad spot I don’t because it hurts to daydream but I understand what you mean. Makes everything worse
My brains is saying i did on purpose 😭 Sometimes your daydreaming is soimmersive that when you get a intrusive thought you just get anxiety a second later? After stop?
@Lizzie Scheav Sometimes it’s an escape but if the anxiety comes through or something bad happens I’m straight back into reality
@hyllore Me too 🙏
Ur not alone i do it too ❤️ i hope things will get better for everyone of us
I'm ruminating so much. I think now it's a proof 😭😭😭
@Lizzie Scheav Can u take a paper or note in ur phone 3 things that ur grayeful for that happened today ? Maybe it will help u feel better or write 3 time u went through something reallh hard but u overcome ut this will remind u that ur strong ❤️ more than u think
@Sofi.a Thanks for these words. I appreciate them! I'll do it 🙏🥰
You mean you daydream but you get thoughts you don't want and it tries to say that you were thinking those thoughts on purpose? Something like that?
Yes! Because I was daydreaming and an image/plot triggered me and it came so fast and I was absorb into the daydreaming and I just "what???" And I stopped daydreaming and started ruminating about it. I was really anxious and my hand was shaking. I repressed my thoughts so I was not hypervigilant about my mind and it happened. Now I'm thinking I did on purpose 😢😢😭😭😭
I'm so sorry this gave you high anxiety. I have this happening to me too. I could be going about my business and have the worst thought ever for the day and it's so bad I physically react to it. Then I just hope it passes by and doesn't come back. It really does suck. It's not your fault that you had those thoughts. I kind of think of it like an awful bug being planted in our minds that just set off all the wrong dials and amplify them.
It's because I was ok with my OCD. I was less anxious and getting better. So I'm afraid I didn't reacted fast to the thought. Sometimes when you're feeling better, do you get some thoughts and stop think a second later? Or do you start thinking you did on purpose and try to give some justifications?
@Lizzie Scheav These are called back door spikes!! This is when you're basically worrying about.. Not worrying. There are times where we see a thought and don't worry about it as much because we reach a point where we're so tired of giving the thoughts any attention, but OCD can use that as "proof" (not proof, but a Factor of uncertainty) and try to scare us with it. I've had this happen years ago but but so much now.
hey, i totally get how tough it can be when your mind seems to take a detour into anxiety, especially when daydreaming turns into a spiral of worrying thoughts. it's really challenging, but you're not alone in feeling this way. 💛 have you heard about "unstuck"? it's an ai-powered therapy tool specifically for ocd (check it out at unstuckmyocd.com). it's been a game-changer for me in the past month, and i think it could offer you some relief too. a fellow forum member pointed me towards it, and i just wish i'd known about it sooner!
For me when i maladaptive daydream a lot of weird things I’m trying to get away from work their ways into the stories I make up when I listen to music and I have to keep fighting it off.
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
I guess you can say I’ve been maladaptive day dreaming. I never had a good childhood I would go to sleep and pray I never woke up around the age up 10 I found daydreaming as a way to cope with the trauma and I’ve been daydreaming since, I still do it now. I always think im gonna meet the love of my life and they would love me for me and accept my ocd and make me feel beautiful and I’ll be rich ( I didn’t grow up with money). But then I would have to come to a realization that I’m not getting better, I’m still insecure with trauma. No friends or family to know what I’m going through and it’s hard wanting a reality you can’t have.
So, yesterday while I was laying in bed, I was relaxing when suddenly I had an intrusive thought about someone, but the thing is that it brought me a sense of enjoyment or calmness for a few seconds before it went away. Once it did, it was only until hours later when I realized what had happened and I began to freak out because I'm reading everywhere that when someone experiences this type of thing, the anxiety happens shortly after the enjoyment or "false" enjoyment. Can OCD do this?
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