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- 1y
Please I'm very sad (about daydreaming)
Do someone here daydreaming and notice it goes wrong? And you getting so much anxiety and start thinking about it...? Like do you start thinking you did on purpose?
Do someone here daydreaming and notice it goes wrong? And you getting so much anxiety and start thinking about it...? Like do you start thinking you did on purpose?
I daydream a lot, whenever I’m in a bad spot I don’t because it hurts to daydream but I understand what you mean. Makes everything worse
My brains is saying i did on purpose 😭 Sometimes your daydreaming is soimmersive that when you get a intrusive thought you just get anxiety a second later? After stop?
@Lizzie Scheav Sometimes it’s an escape but if the anxiety comes through or something bad happens I’m straight back into reality
@hyllore Me too 🙏
Ur not alone i do it too ❤️ i hope things will get better for everyone of us
I'm ruminating so much. I think now it's a proof 😭😭😭
@Lizzie Scheav Can u take a paper or note in ur phone 3 things that ur grayeful for that happened today ? Maybe it will help u feel better or write 3 time u went through something reallh hard but u overcome ut this will remind u that ur strong ❤️ more than u think
@Sofi.a Thanks for these words. I appreciate them! I'll do it 🙏🥰
You mean you daydream but you get thoughts you don't want and it tries to say that you were thinking those thoughts on purpose? Something like that?
Yes! Because I was daydreaming and an image/plot triggered me and it came so fast and I was absorb into the daydreaming and I just "what???" And I stopped daydreaming and started ruminating about it. I was really anxious and my hand was shaking. I repressed my thoughts so I was not hypervigilant about my mind and it happened. Now I'm thinking I did on purpose 😢😢😭😭😭
I'm so sorry this gave you high anxiety. I have this happening to me too. I could be going about my business and have the worst thought ever for the day and it's so bad I physically react to it. Then I just hope it passes by and doesn't come back. It really does suck. It's not your fault that you had those thoughts. I kind of think of it like an awful bug being planted in our minds that just set off all the wrong dials and amplify them.
It's because I was ok with my OCD. I was less anxious and getting better. So I'm afraid I didn't reacted fast to the thought. Sometimes when you're feeling better, do you get some thoughts and stop think a second later? Or do you start thinking you did on purpose and try to give some justifications?
@Lizzie Scheav These are called back door spikes!! This is when you're basically worrying about.. Not worrying. There are times where we see a thought and don't worry about it as much because we reach a point where we're so tired of giving the thoughts any attention, but OCD can use that as "proof" (not proof, but a Factor of uncertainty) and try to scare us with it. I've had this happen years ago but but so much now.
hey, i totally get how tough it can be when your mind seems to take a detour into anxiety, especially when daydreaming turns into a spiral of worrying thoughts. it's really challenging, but you're not alone in feeling this way. 💛 have you heard about "unstuck"? it's an ai-powered therapy tool specifically for ocd (check it out at unstuckmyocd.com). it's been a game-changer for me in the past month, and i think it could offer you some relief too. a fellow forum member pointed me towards it, and i just wish i'd known about it sooner!
For me when i maladaptive daydream a lot of weird things I’m trying to get away from work their ways into the stories I make up when I listen to music and I have to keep fighting it off.
I’ve always struggled with maladaptive daydreaming I’ve stopped but I have harm ocd and my brain would hook onto a true crime story and I’d pretend to be a family member/loved one/victim of a k*ller and would make up elaborate stories abt it. That feels so disgusting I’m so scared this shows in a horrible person doesn’t it? And now my brain is telling me I have found k*llers attractive in the past I don’t think I ever did but what if I did I’m scared
I’ve always struggled with maladaptive daydreaming I’ve stopped but I have harm ocd and my brain would hook onto a true crime story and I’d pretend to be a family member/loved one/victim of a kller and would make up elaborate stories abt it. That feels so disgusting I’m so scared this shows in a horrible person doesn’t it? And now my brain is telling me I have found kllers attractive in the past I don’t think I ever did but what if I did I’m scared and I daydreamed about k*lling a man if he ever SA my niece these feel so violent they were at least MONTHS ago but I am ashamed and truly would like support.
Does anyone else here daydream maladaptively? Well, I do a lot and my OCD has latched onto that as “proof” that my fear is real due to do contents of my daydreams. To preface I’m 14 and most of my daydreams consist of boys that I like so like 85% of my day is just me daydreaming about these boys in a fantasy world that I built in my head for them. The thing is I have ADHD and I’m super hyperactive and I require a lot of movement to engage in my daydreams (and with engaging in anything in general tbh) so I’m always just randomly walking/running around the house daydreaming. Anyway sometimes I’ll make the same faces my character makes in the daydream and also do like hand movements they do. And I’ve been ruminating about this for months because I’m like “does that count as imagining myself as a boy?” due to the fact that most of the characters in my daydreaming world are male and I panic. I would never imagine myself as a boy in that sense because it makes me uncomfortable, like ever since I got this theme, whenever I walk by a mirror I get these intrusive images of the boy I like starring back at me in the mirror and I get super uncomfortable. It’s like a punch in the gut. I don’t want to look like those boys at all and I know that if I was one of them I would hate my appearance and hate looking in the mirror, no matter how attractive they are. Or when I’m doing something my OCD will imagine ME doing it as a boy like in first person and with the intent of me being a boy and that also really triggers me because that’s not what I want and it makes me real uncomfortable. What I DO want is to daydream about boys, but not about being a boy. But isn’t that what I’ve been doing this whole time without realizing? Like I’m so wrapped in my daydreams that when I’m doing anything I go “Hm I wonder what [my crush] would do in this situation” and imagine him doing it but in a completely different setting and with some changes to the activity added. That really scares me because I go “what if that means I’m a boy” and I get really distressed because I don’t wanna be a boy. I don’t view any of the boys on my daydream as me at all and like, I don’t daydream with the intent to be a boy because that’s the least of my desires, all I do is want to think about boys because boys are cute ofc and I like them. But I’m still really scared. Is my OCD possibly twisting things or am I in denial? :(
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