i feel like i’ve been losing feelings for my girlfriend even though i love her very much deep down the only sign that this might be ocd is that i gain feelings in the morning, lose them during the day and gain them back in the evening what does this mean
In a healthy relationship you don't feel attracted 24/7. Some part of attraction is also excitement and lust. In a normal relationship you don't feel that all the time. For a good relationship (in my opinion) you need attraction in general but more important you need to get along with that person well. Resonate well on points in life that are important to you. I find my partner very attractive in general. Still he can walk around naked or charm me sometimes and i am still not attracted. Maybe even annoyed. Thats normal. I still know, he is a kind of person, that I find attractive AND can see my life with. And if you are still in school, maybe your goal is to have someone to have good times and fun with. To share thoughts. To talk to, to liste, to be heard. So, you don't need to define your relationship only on attraction.
What's different in the morning and evening compared to the day?
@Wolfram i feel like i love her really much and would never leave her and want to hold her in my arms 24/7, during the day i feel like meh and because i don’t feel anything i should break up w her (causes a fuckton of anxiety)
@ocdposting But what are you doing during the day? I mean stuff like work. What's different compared to the mornings and evenings
@Wolfram in the morning i usually wake up (and have literally no intrusive thoughts for 5 minutes, best time of my life) during the day i go to school in the evening i usually do nothing lol would like to point out that this cycle is very common in my actual ocd things, like whenever i had really bad suicidal and schizophrenia ocd, it always followed this cycle
@ocdposting So is it when you're at school you feel this way about her
@Wolfram in general during the day. i don’t know how to explain this but between 9am-8pm i feel meh and aftee 8pm i feel the spark again
@ocdposting OK. Does school or your average day make you feel stressed on any level?
@Wolfram no, school is easy af, idk why tf this happens, genuinely but again this always used to happen with other ocd subtypes to idek
@ocdposting OK so maybe not stress. Do you see her at school ?
@Wolfram i do
@ocdposting OK I'm at a loss here. Sorry. Maybe it's just intrusive thoughts that has led to convincing your emotions you feel that way?
@Wolfram i think that might be the case? idek thh
@ocdposting If it is, then you'd need to learn how to deal with intrusive thoughts and then possibly do some erp for the emotions
What are the feelings your having?
Do you not trust her, not attracted to her,,,what is it?
@Karate321 not attracted
I don’t think it’s meant to be
You should be attracted to her 24/7
@Karate321 @Karate321 But he has OCD. OCD makes its own rules. Don’t tell him he should be attracted 24/7 when he has OCD which can cause (un-)attraction🫡🙏🙏
@elliss2 ❤️
@Karate321 I didn’t mean this against you, please don’t feel offended @Karate321
I recommend the website Conscious Transitions. She talks a lot about how our perceptions about love and relationships are driven by the unrealistic model that is shown in Hollywood and Disney. Love isn't perfect and you're not always going to feel 100% attraction and love and feelings all the time. Yes of course it's important to have at least a moderate degree of interest and attraction in your partner as a base, but this can fluctuate a lot throughout the course of any relationship, no matter the length. Its a lengthy topic so I recommend checking out that website. She has tons of great content that will settle your mind....just don't keep re-reading for reassurance...😉
OCD often makes me feel distant from God. I often feel unforgiven, unloved, and even hated. In my head I often view God as someone who hates me and who is always constantly disappointed in me. My relationship with him feels like an Obligation now more than a relationship. I’m always on the cusp of becoming an atheist, but I always draw myself back because I don’t want to give up my faith so fast, even if it’s been 4-5 years of living like this. I’m often at war with myself daily. There is never a day that I feel as though if I do one small thing whether it be buy something or eat something that I’m going to end up in eternal damnation. And even though I know it’s only OCD and it’s cognitive distortions, I still feel uneasy.
Hey guys! So I struggle with OCD, especially harm, relationship and moral stuff and I am somewhat recovered now. However, my current girlfriend has started showing signs of OCD but it’s abou5 something I don’t know much about so I wanted to see if anyone on here had thoughts about it. She is constantly thinking about food (when to eat it, what is healthy, what is too much, what is too little) and controls the thoughts by giving in and controlling her entire day around food. She don’t really know the feeling of being full. She never starved herself and always eats, but then she feels extremely guilty afterwards. Her thoughts do have to do a lot with her body image and not gaining weight but also not losing any either. Does this sound like ocd or an eating disorder?
my ocd has really been taking its toll on me lately. i feel completely unloved by God. i use to feel it, but now i just kinda feel a hole. i talk to Him everyday, and read devotionals. i spend time with Him. i just can’t feel Him. i know a relationship with God isn’t based on feelings, but on faith. i guess my faith is running a bit low. i’m just tired and my thoughts get worse. it’s like a roller coaster.
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