Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

HOCD ERP for False attraction

so ive been doing ERP for false attraction and thought i give you an update to see if im doing it right and tell you the feelings i get from it. So usually I expose myself to attractive dudes or dudes in general and than the feelings of false attraction come in and yeah it will come with thoughts which makes it touch but the feelings is whats the most tough about it. Feelings i get i don't know how to explain it, im getting all these sensations or feelings that i have no idea how to explain, but it like tightness in the stomach, tingles maybe? fuzzy feeling all over my chest and stomach and also shoulders too, and other sensations, but i don't feel like its anxiety or distress like if become ok with this but not in a good way you know? it doesn't feel like it but is it? IDK it just feels like genuine and real attraction. What i do is I keep exposing myself and i definitely give attention to the feelings like i notice a lot and i feel hyperfocused on that and i just let the feelings and sensation stay there and just say,"its just my HOCD" but when i say that it doesnt feel true.

Sexual Orientation OCD

AmirE

Date posted: 1y

Good question, I stuggle with this too. i also get weird sensations and feelings like something is not right and I get scared/anxious when I get false attraction. I just dont know how to accept / not respond to it. Maybe practice with TV instead of real people ? I really hope someone can help with ERP for false attraction. Do you also have difficuly making eye contact? Im scared that someone will notice my ( false ) attraction in my eyes.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

I think idk, I get feeling of,"attraction" for just being in their area, but I'm glad I'm not alone. I think what's is that we were doing erp, we focused in the feelings so much when we're suppose to do is notice than redirect our attention to something else

AmirE

Date posted: 1y

I know for sure that I dont accept the feelings 100%, Im too scared and too avoidanr to feel it through. I just hate the false attraction part, it messes me up the most. Im always avoiding eye contact and I keep the conversations minimum. Maybe because I havent figured it out yet how to do the ERP properly.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

For you does it feel like real and genuine attraction even though you never had it before?

Nicolas:)

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous - It does feel that way for me, but then I ruminate and I wonder if I had it before and I start feeling like I'm always been like this and it feels real, like it feels like the truth

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Nicolas:) 100 percent feel like this too

AmirE

Date posted: 1y

Does the hocd make you sad ? If so then its ocd and its doing its job. Otherwise you would be busy dating men I guess

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

I think so, according to my mom and sister who I have told about this it's been making me miserable and affected my life in a pretty bad way, I've use to have suicidal thoguths about this, I argue with the thoguhts and try to best them everyday

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

What ducks is that I doubt everything now so when I try to say I feel this way I get doubts

AmirE

Date posted: 1y

Yeah it feels real bur thats how its supposed to feel, because that is how ocd works. However I also get stomach churns and muscle spams sometimes because of the anxiety. But I dont feel anxiety all the time, most of the time I do feel shame but I know 100% its fake because this happened out of the blue and Im also 40.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Gotcha, I don't know I feel shame, but I hope feel negative towards these feelings I guess I do otherwise I wouldn't be here

AmirE

Date posted: 1y

The doubts are normal, also part of ocd. Just remember you are straight and you will never be gay, you suffer from a mean ilness that attacks your personality. Try to focus on your values and not on your thoughts and feelings. And keep practicing ERP

What is happ...

Date posted: 15w

How are you all doing now?

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w

What the HECK?

what the hell? this entire day ive been trying to do ERP right? allowing the thoughts feelings, sensations be there with very little reaction, saying"oh that's a thought", "that's a feeling" don't care" etc. But it seems to be making it 100x times worse. Like its impossible to just"ignore" it, it feels so freaking real as if this was the truth, the doubts are real, the false attraction feelings and lip sensations are REAL and genuine attraction, feels ego-synotic, its impossible just to ignore or move on from it because I think I'm so hyperfocused on it all so it last the whole day. IDK right now it feels and seems as if I lost? like its not a what if but it feels factual like"I'm naturally gay, I'm gay" and it feels like normal and become ok with that. But I don't want that I don't want to be gay.

Anonymous

Date posted: 20w

SOCD false attraction

hey guys, i’m almost fully healed in my socd journey but what’s stopping me is the false atractions. i get them almost 24/7 at this point and to every thing. they feel real and i hate them they make me feel disgusted. they also make me feel like hot and gross but then i see people saying thats what attractions feel like, but i have felt so much attraction to the opposite gender pre all of this and it felt nice and enjoyable not digustinf. i’m also getting false memory trying to show me ‘signal’ from my childhood to prove i’m gay amd i truly don’t know if they’re real. it’s so degrading and at this point i feel like govining up. pelesse if you have any advice or even if your going through the same thing just let me know. ocd is so terrible

What is happ...

Date posted: 17w

YOUR EXPERIENCE IN FALSE ATTRACTION

Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.

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