Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 1y ago
ERP
I started doing ERP and I absolutely hate it! It feels like I actually like and want the thoughts š
GermanCowboyGermanCowboy
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Itās hard at first, but itās not impossible. Youāll get used to it later on. Youāll even learn to like being a better you and so the hope is for you to actively seek exposures on your own. Itās like exercising at the gym.
StoicGuyStoicGuy
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
You are still missing the point though. Feelings aren't facts. Thoughts aren't facts. One thing that helped me a lot was realizing random thoughts aren't important and we don't have to allow them any importance. You have to retrain your brain to recognize these thoughts as just something that pops up in your head that usually don't have any meaning. You assign a feeling or decide on how to react. OCD of course amplifies these feelings but if you don't place much importance on thoughts then they lose their power.
GermanCowboyGermanCowboy
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@StoicGuy Very stoic advice indeed! Iām interested in reading into stoicism, any pointers on where to start? I just got a copy of Marcus Aureliusā Meditations.
StoicGuyStoicGuy
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@GermanCowboy Marcus is obviously the best, but it's nice to read different interpretations by modern authors to get different perspectives. Unfortunately stoic philosophers aren't alive anymore so a lot of their advice is open to different interpretations, especially when practiced in a modern world with modern issues. That being said, I don't think it matters who you read as long as you follow the basic foundations of stoicism.
olivia.4olivia.4
- Date posted
- 1y ago
youāll get through it!
StoicGuyStoicGuy
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I already know your brain will scream " but, what if these thoughts are true?" Well any scary random thought could be true, but having a thought and and associated feeling doesn't actually mean that thought has any truth or relevance. It may be true or it may be nonsense. For OCD recovery you aren't trying to control your thoughts by making them go away, but instead you are learning to not react to them. Notice the thoughts, then say maybe, maybe not it will happen. Then move on to a task that is important to you.
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@StoicGuy I just donāt want it to be true š
Flower152Flower152
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Hey girl Iām starting ERP and I have the exact same issue Iām just terrified and donāt want it to be true because itās so disgusting
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Anxiousaddie
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 20w ago
Please help- so-ocd
I did an erp and I was thinking over and over again āI want to be with girls I just donāt want others to find outā and then it felt like a moment of yeah that is what I want. It felt really real I canāt believe itās not. I wasnāt anxious about it. It felt completely like me and even when I tried to deny it like it was a true realization and that I wanted it to be true. I canāt do this. What do I do!!! Erp suggestions?
Anonymousssssss
- Date posted
- 17w ago
Do you have to do erp?
Iāve noticed that Iām somewhat happier also ignoring my thoughts than I am instead of doing compulsions (Iām sick and tired of being sick and tired atp) but Iāve heard youāre technically supposed to do erp rather than pushing under the rug. But idk if I have a thought I just refuse to think about it again and im fine even if I want to do compulsions
Squishyseasp...
- Date posted
- 12w ago
Idk if therapy can help me.
Whenever I have a non flirtatious, friendly interaction with a male my brain accuses me of cheating. I go into a full panic attack until I tell my husband then it goes away Same thing with intrusive thoughts. I'll have a random sexual thought about someone and my brain tells me that since I thought that it must be what I wanted and accuses me of cheating. Sometimes these thoughts come with actually physical feelings of what intruded. Thoughts of "what would it be like .." but I stop myself and then freak the flip out. With erp am I just supposed to let the sexual thoughts or accusations play out in my head?! It's excruciatingly painful. Also if I sit there and give into a sexual thoughts paired with the "mood" feelings how is that not mentally cheating šµāš«
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