Did anyone ever feel like bc he has OCD everyone decide that the feelings are because of that? And from the OCD? sometimes I feel like my thoughts are real and they connect them to OCD by mistake (my therapist too) even tho I’m trying to be very clear about how I feel
OK, let's look at this from the other perspective. Why would you want to?
@Wolfram Because I’m kind of depressed. Idk why. And if to be honest? My life is kind of good. I have a caring family. Loving husband. Great friends. I hate feeling this way. But sometimes I feel like I surrendered already if it makes sense
@confused writer https://youtu.be/jVczK116eyo?feature=shared I don't know if this willhelp shed light on your situation. Both of the people in this video are incredibly intelligent and well educated in their fields. I've seen lots of videos with presentations, podcasts, interviews and classes with them.
@Wolfram I will see it. Thank you. I keep wishing it’s ocd and that’s it. I’m like this for a month and I did get better but the thoughts became more and more real
Sadly this is exactly what happens! Something good happening in your life? OCD says hello! Ocd causes depression as well but if you don’t feel it’s the ocd that’s is causing said depression I’d let your therapist know that you feel these stem from two different things and maybe she could medicate you? I’m on great meds and they even help with the thoughts got rid of them for a whole year!
@KateFart23 I told her. She still thinks it’s the ocd. 🫠
@KateFart23 She says wherever it’s coming from, I should let it be and continue on with my life because usually I have the worst anxiety about dying (major health anxiety) and anyway I need to let it be and continue. But it’s so hard.
@confused writer Letting it be is very hard but it is the best way to get over this
Yes I share your feelings. Definitely have moments when I feel like this is so real and is not OCD. Actually most of my themes are real life based. But realize this is another trick OCD is playing with you. If the urge is so strong, I use the thought capsule approach - I wrote the thought down and allocated a specific period of time to let myself ruminate. So often in the end, I realize those thoughts are not as important. Then it’s proof that it’s OCD’s trick again.
@oldtownadam So I’m not getting to the not so important part. It’s very hard for me.
@confused writer It’s okay. Even if you think it’s still important at the end of the day. Use that dedicated time to think about it and make an action.
@oldtownadam Thank you. It’s a good advice. I just hope I’ll succeed to do it, because I get stuck up in my head
@confused writer Yes. The hardest part is refraining from compulsion in the moment. I’m telling you after 17 years, with meds, sometimes it’s still so hard. But that’s also the best opportunities you use to train your brain to be irrelevant to obsessions. You got this! Go for it!
@oldtownadam Do meds help?
@confused writer They do. But therapy is still needed. I now see it as a systematic problem so it needs a systemic approach, which means we need to use all the tools we have to cope with it.
OCD is so much more than just being 'neat' or 'organized'—it’s relentless, exhausting, and often deeply misunderstood. The intrusive thoughts, the compulsions, the anxiety—it can feel like a never-ending cycle that others just don’t seem to get. Many of us have had experiences where even therapists didn’t fully grasp the depth of our struggles. I myself faced difficulty being misdiagnosed and my talk therapist not understanding the full extent of what I was going through until I found NOCD. So many prior therapists wrote off my symptoms as general anxiety, not realizing it was actually OCD all along. If you could sit down with a therapist who truly wanted to understand, what do you wish they knew about OCD?
Does anyone have any advice for how to know the difference between ocd and real feelings/thoughts? Sometimes an intrusive thought will come in and I immediately know it’s ridiculous and I can just leave it alone and it won’t bother me but other times I really really don’t know. It’s when ocd hijacks and twists my real feelings and thoughts and tries to manipulate me into believing they’re something they’re not or something that doesn’t align with my true morals or intentions. But since it’s twisting and mixing with real feelings I get so confused and scared. Everything gets jumbled and I feel like I can’t trust myself or my own mind. Yet other times and other topics I can laugh off and push away just fine. Make it make sense. And then I start to think well maybe I don’t have ocd at all and I’m just in denial because I don’t want to accept that these scary/concerning things are true about myself. Or maybe that’s just the ocd talking.
Do you ever feel like you wonder if your ocd would be less if you were with someone else? Or would it be better if you were with someone else? I’m really upset because I used to be able to enjoy myself even with the anxiety and now it’s like i am just analyzing and I don’t have feelings and I’m irritated because there’s things that frustrate me about him that I don’t like and my brain says if I was with someone else I would be able to deal with those things better and that we just aren’t right for each other. And the thoughts that used to make me anxious about breaking up don’t like it’s really me that feels it. I know no relationship is perfect but it’s like my brain keeps saying with someone else I wouldn’t feel like this or I would but I’d be able to handle it better. It feels like I have to just start fresh with someone new cause the ocd got too into this to the point where I don’t feel or even know what’s real. It feels like fear and anxiety and just being so into this has just made me feel not into this anymore but idk if I’m thinking right. It’s also just warped the way I see him like I only see the negatives and my brain keeps saying you don’t feel this cause it’s wrong. And it’s depressing bc of how happy and safe I used to feel. I’m supposed to see him soon and it’s like I want to but also don’t because I feel like things have changed unless that’s just something I made in my head and cause I don’t feel the feelings I used to. But then I think I will just be this way with someone else but then my brain says otherwise and it’s so confusing. People keep telling me not to make decisions because I’m fogged but it feels like I’m not. Like my brain is manipulating me. And also like all the things I used to like I’ve somehow turned into like distaste which is so upsetting. I would like to think this is just ocd taking control and confusing me and distorting my perspective but I’m scared it’s not and that my feelings are gone. Has anyone experienced this but it was still ocd?
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