Confession OCD

i have recently had really bad confession ocd. i have an amazing happy healthy relationship, and i’m slowly destroying it. now, it’s come as far as me confessing thoughts that i probably shouldn’t be having to him. i feel so much guilt and anxiety if i don’t tell him, but telling him is just ruining our relationship and hurting him. i don’t mean these thoughts, i love him and want only him. i also confess at least 5+ times a day. I struggle with not even knowing if some things im confessing that i’ve done in the past are real or fake. it’s like i don’t know if what i did was real or not. im trying my best to stop confessing, but it’s hard because how am i supposed to know if it’s something he really needs to know or not? i don’t wanna lose him by telling him stupid stuff i should have kept to myself. he’s my dream person. it’s hard to act normal around him when i’m having the urge to confess. that leads me to not hold it in when he asks if i’m okay, because then if i say yes i’m lying so then i have to confess. we are very open about things, but it just has gone too far on my end. if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this please share.

Relationship OCD

Username: Lilly1234Lilly1234

Date posted: 36w ago

I went through something Excatly like you are. I was having very horrible thoughts and thought I had to share everything with my partner. And if I didn’t share with him, I would feel so guilty. Unfortunately, my relationship ended due to both mental health and other reasons. The number one thing I wish I would’ve done is go to therapy when it first started happening. One thing that my therapist has told me is that you don’t have to tell anybody anything. And she has really been having me focus on how I feel when I have certain thoughts, and you also have to know that you are the only one that truly knows how your body feels when you have those thoughts. Best of luck and feel free if you want someone to talk to you can reach out💖

Username: TheosisTheosis

Date posted: 36w ago

@Lilly1234 Yea its important to feel how your body/you feels when you have these thoughts

Username: ShovingMyselfTowardSuccessShovingMysel...

Date posted: 27w ago

I didn’t know I have this problem until right now. Maybe we could start writing down our “secret” thoughts in a locked note on our phone? I might start doing that. Can you have him sit in a session?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 26w ago

@ShovingMyselfTowardSuccess yes i do this! i write down my confessions in my notes app. sometimes it does help because i’m able to type and ramble on and sometimes reading makes me think “this is not something he needs to know” unfortunately my confession ocd isn’t only thoughts but also things i’ve done in the past i regret, since i acted different in the begging of our relationship when we didn’t have boundaries. i will look into having him sit in a session! thanks!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 26w ago

@ShovingMyselfTowardSuccess i definitely recommend writing it down. if you’re like me, writing it on a piece of paper can be a bit too “real” and scary, but on my notes app helps a lot! i think that the fact i could delete it in one click helps haha. anyways, it’s always worth a try and it helps me sometimes

Username: TheosisTheosis

Date posted: 36w ago

I kno its hard not to want to confess these thoughts to your loved one. I’ve done the same to my loved ones including my girlfriend, and they get really fed up with it. I guess what helps me is to write down the things im thinking first, and see if any of them are something they really need to hear. If not, you need to sit with your thoughts and accept/welcome them. Remind yourself It’s ok to be uncertain. Learn to be comfortable with whatever outcome comes from the thoughts u have. It’ll take some time tho, so u might still confess some things every now and then but thats ok. As long as you’re seeing improvement. Slow improvement is better than no improvement. Take it easy on yourself, u deserve it.

Username: nicolemw

Date posted: 5y ago

Anybody else have a major problem with confessions in ROCD? How can I deal with the urge to confess every little thought to my boyfriend? It’s hurtful to him because I’m constantly telling him every minor interaction I’ve had that I can remember with another guy, telling him my doubts about our relationship, and lately I’ve even been telling him hurtful things I don’t even agree with as far as comparing him to people I’ve been with before and people I’m attracted to. It’s really wrong of me to say these things to him for the sole purpose of relieving my anxiety. Any advice?

Relationship OCD

Username: Allison_

Date posted: 2y ago

Confession OCD

Anyone know anything about confession OCD that can tell me about it in a nutshell? I’ve always felt the need to tell everyone whatever is going on in my head and I feel guilty if I don’t. I would always tell on myself as a kid but not for the things I did wrong but instead for all the bad things in my head. Now I obsess over everything from my past and experience with other partners and have horrible guilt if I don’t tell my boyfriend absolutely everything that has ever happened or just things my mind gets stuck on. Only when he knows everything I can think of do I relax. Is this what confession OCD is? If not- does anyone else get the compulsion to get the truth out?

Username: tiana17

Date posted: 1y ago

Can’t Stop Confessing

It feels like my mind scans for things for me to “confess” to my partner. Things that aren’t even important or necessary come into my mind and I feel so guilty about it and get super stressed and feel like the only way to get rid of that is to confess. I feel like it’s something I have to do. No matter how much I tell myself it’s something that doesn’t need to be said I still have to say it somehow. I don’t know if this is normal, but I just feel like my partner has to know everything. And this is causing arguments and making him upset. I don’t want to hurt my partner anymore as I can tell my OCD is really affecting him. If anyone has any advice that would be great!

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