Retroactive jealousy

I deal with this bad. Anytime something is mentioned about my partners past I get so anxious. It’s like I don’t want her to have had a past before me. But it’s so unfair bc I’ve had more relationships in the past than her. Need an ERP for this

I didn't know this was a thing. I have the opposite problem. postactive jealousy? is that a thing? I'm fine with someone's past — it's in the past for a reason. it's the thought of them being with someone else in the future when we eventually break up (and that mindset is a whole other issue I gotta deal with) which will prove my (precieved) inadequacies.

Yeah it’s the opposite for a lot of people compulsions make you want to ask questions and details and hurt your self more it’s pretty sucky

Yeah it’s horrible dates and years even story’s when she was a kid trigger me its so crazy how your mind can do this

But we are not wrong for feeling this we just have to realize life happened and we must go on and keep working at it