Does anyone else try and have honest conversations with yourself with SOOCD? I’ll randomly be like “okay truly try and think if this is you it’s okay”. And when I do this it just always feels like I’m in denial
Yeah, it never makes anything better though. For a previous theme, i was convinced i was in denial and accepted what it was telling me and it didnt solve a thing. Youre at odds with your thoughts because they arent you, theyre egodystonic. Ironically thinking they arent egodystonic are also egodystonic thoughts. Somedays id wake up so neutral and optimistic id listen and go "sure, ill try giving being bi a try" and then minutes later im like "hmmmmm, nah, still isnt for me"
@Logan_B I 100% experience this too! I try and remember that ocd / this app / treatment wouldn’t exist if it didn’t feel so real and convincing.
I found the moments where I had those conversations really relieving at first, but then the obsessive thoughts came back in force, which made me realize it was a compulsion. OCD doesn’t care about reason, and I found if I gave it an inch in a conversation he would take a mile. It is takes a lot of practice but just let those thoughts “check in” but don’t engage with them if possible
@Zoroarcanine Does it help you labeling your ocd as “he”?
@LV4523 Hahaha it does, at least my therapist and I named him after she told me that a lot of her patients do that
@Zoroarcanine Okay good to know because I need some more tips!! 😅
Yeah I do, I feel that and I really don't like feeling that way
Is it possible to seek reassurance from oneself? Because sometimes I try to combat my obsessive thoughts by telling myself, "this is just my OCD. There's no need to be anxious or upset over this unwanted thought. My OCD is telling me things that aren't true." Or if I have an intrusive thought, I'll tell myself, "this is just an intrusive thought, it doesn't reflect who I am as a person. Just because I'm having an intrusive thought about doing something awful doesn't mean I actually want to do that thing. It's just an intrusive thought, it doesn't say anything about my character or desires." Is it okay to do this, or is this another form of reassurance-seeking? I guess basically my question is, is it okay to comfort oneself and remind oneself of the truth, or is this a form of compulsion in itself? I'm just trying to figure out how to respond to my intrusive thoughts and obsessions in a healthy way.
Does anyone else have problems of doubting what if it’s not ocd and what if and I actually want this if so what do I tell it when it does ??
I am in the process of dating a guy. It just feels right with him and deep down I know the feelings are there - my brain now tells me all the time that I’m lying to him, I’m lying to myself, I’m not allowed to tell my friends about him because I’m one big liar. It also tells me that I actually like women and not men to the extent I’m believing all those thoughts. I just cried because it felt real so I did some mental compulsions to make sure it’s still him I have feelings for. It’s all one big downward spiral today… Does anyone experiencing SOOCD during a relationship? 🥲
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