POCD

Hi, I’m semi new here. I downloaded this app in 2019 and today is my first day back on it sense. I have always struggled with OCD, in particular POCD - and I want to give you hope, that there is light at the end of the tunnel and that this isn’t forever even though it feels that way. I have been doing great for years, but recently it started flaring up uncontrollably. I believe it’s because I have a new significant other, and I feel like I have to tell them about the thoughts that I have. I feel like I can’t have peace in my mind until they know everything including details. I don’t want to go to In depth here because it’s scary but I had a POCD intrusive thought about their loved one, and I feel like I need to share the thought with them so I can be free of it. Does anyone else struggle with this? Like you have to tell your partner or else you won’t have peace? I hope this makes sense.

POCD

Youarenotyou...

Date posted: 1y ago

I never have had POCD with a loved one in a relationship. But I have dealt with POCD. You don’t need to confess to them the thoughts your having. I understand you feel that need to express to them the thoughts you have, but remember, the way out of this cycle of OCD, is to just let the thoughts be. OCD wants you to give into it and make it a whole big deal, remember, relax, take a breath, & if your spinning, okay your spinning it’s okay. Try giving the thoughts you have a name, when I start spinning on subjects recent I have been giving them a name. Like when I’m ruminating, I’ll catch myself, and just lightly say in my head to myself ( remember be loving to yourself when your in a loop ) & I’ll just say oh man there goes ruminating Robert again. And I’ll agree with what the thoughts are saying. Then, overtime they lose their power. I’m not perfect at it just started this, but it helps.

Maverick1_

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Wow this is great advice thank you so much, can you explain to me what Ruminating means? I know I can google it, but google only tempts me to search more which feeds the compulsions.

Youarenotyou...

Date posted: 1y ago

@Maverick1_ . It’s when you are thinking about a situation or past event or future event over n over.

Youarenotyou...

Date posted: 1y ago

@Maverick1_ The key to you overcoming those POCD thoughts, is not to fight them. The more you fight them, the worse they get. Simply understand that if you just allow them to be, become aware of them even tho it’s not gonna be easy, overtime those thoughts lose their power when you stop being afraid of them. The more afraid you are of the thoughts, the more they will come back harder.

Maverick1_

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thank you so much! I really appreciate all of the advice you’re giving me. This helps greatly.

Youarenotyou...

Date posted: 1y ago

If your thoughts are telling you you need to confess to your partner about the thoughts your having, try giving that a name. Maybe confessing Caren, say to yourself in those moments. Oh man there goes confessing Caren again, don’t fight them. Remember to overcome POCD, it’s a journey of learning to take yourself less serious, learn to be loving to yourself when you’re spinning and in the loop. You got this

Maverick1_

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thank you so much for this, it really means a lot. It feels so lonely at times, but I’m glad someone understands.

Youarenotyou...

Date posted: 1y ago

@Maverick1_ POCD will lie to you and tell you your a this n that. Your not. Take yourself less serious, it’s a journey brother not gonna be easy, there will be days where it’s hard, but remember, it’s about learning how to process your emotions, & allow yourself to feel your emotions and you don’t have to be perfect. It’s a journey, one foot in the front of the other

Maverick1_

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thank you so much. Wish There was a way I could stay connected with you on this app. Your support means a lot and remember the same for you too. 🙏🏾

Buttercupz

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 52w ago

Omg I’m dealing with the exact same thing! These comments are helping. My therapist told me that confessing will only fuel the OCD and prolongue healing. There’s more incentive to not confessing than confessing. Remember, you were fine all this time. This something to celebrate, not panic over. OCD wants to get the best of you don’t let it

Maverick1_

Date posted: 52w ago

@Buttercupz Awww thank you so much!! This makes me smile!!! And I’m glad the comments are helping you as well!

UnknownPersonel

Date posted: 11w ago

Dad with pocd

Please read this. I’ve had ocd pretty much a lot of my life but never knew what it was until my senior year of highschool. I’m 21 with 2 kids and i believe i’ve had pocd a little bit before my daughter was born (which was 8 months ago). It made me start looking at all kids differently and i hate it. But it really started triggering me about 3 months ago. I’ve been thinking if i’d intentionally touched or harmed my kids the wrong way, or any kids for that matter. This started giving me false memories (or at least hope they are). I’ve been having panic attacks, yelling at myself, punching walls, praying, and even thoughts of ending my own life. I grew up in a severe toxic household throughout my childhood and teenage life. I’ve never wished that on my kids since i became a dad. I wanna give them the life i never got. I look back my photos of my children and i feel like i’m a complete fraud of a dad. I cannot look at my kids or be around them a lot of times. I can’t hold my daughter right. I can’t change their diaper when they need it. Even my son came and was hugging on me the other night while i was watching tv and i acted like a stranger to him. I can very little do this stuff sometimes because it’s either i get relief or i push my thoughts as far back as i can. I get scared if i did something to not just my kids, but any other kids in the past. I have such a a great life and such a beautiful family. It was hard and stressful at first being young with a family but i couldn’t be more thankful at all for them. I’m just so lost and stressed right now that i just don’t know what to do anymore

madalyndicie...

Date posted: 8w ago

hello everyone 🤍

i’ve been dealing with this “thing” since i was 15. (i’m 23 now) if i have a bad memory that i have done when i was really young or just an intrusive thought i feel like i need to tell my mom or boyfriend. it’s been on and off ever since but since January hit it’s been an everyday thing about the littlest things. mostly about my relationship. an example is i was talking to someone random at my job and we were talking about taxes and when im in deep thought or just thinking i do a thing where i bite my lip (not in the sexual way) and i had a thought when it happened “was that sexual?” and i felt like i did something wrong and i went for a while thinking that until i told my boyfriend about it. or like my ex’s face has popped up in my head in the most inappropriate times and i feel the need that i have to tell him. (my ex was not a good person) i feel like im a prisoner in my head everyday, trying to justify thoughts or remind myself that its just a thought. i didnt know that this was or could be a form of ocd. it runs in my family but i’ve just never considered it being this. i always called it anxiety or depression but i always felt like it is more than that.

Princessandt...

Date posted: 27d ago

Finding love with POCD. Help!

So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.

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