Hi ! Does anyone have intrusive thoughts of being betrayed and imagining the worse case scenario until feeling that it could be true, having trouble to trust your partner, friend and family ?? Is it part of ROCD ?
I would call it that if it’s just your partner but if you’re afraid of this happening with anyone in your life it might be another category? This was HORRIBLE for me at the start of my current relationship and caused a lot of issues. It’s definitely died down even though it still happens here and there, not sure how to help it though :/
Yes, me too. What do you do to manage those thoughts ?
@ekmaa Honestly I would just talk to my girlfriend about it absolutely everytime it happened. I didn’t always believe her and it caused a lot of fights but the transparency about it being overthinking and OCD helped. I also would constantly tell her I know she’s not lying and I know there isn’t anything wrong and that I just need to hear it or be told again. This would inadvertently make me fight it too. Don’t let it get to the point of checking phones or anything like that because it can put some serious stress on the both of you and make tension higher. I’d say location is okay as long as you aren’t obsessive about checking it and only use it in dire need. The best thing to do is sit down and talk it through very slow with them, find ways you can fight it independently and together. The further into the relationship we got and the more I trusted her and learned who she was it slowed and wasn’t as bad. It still spikes here and there but after 3 years it’s a pretty rare occurrence.
I’m struggling with this in my current relationship. The thoughts not only make me anxious, but they make me depressed when I accept them
Me too, and I'm sorry that you are dealing with this also. Would you call it ROCD ? How do you manage those intrusive thoughts ?
that always happens to mee. it limits the relationship and does not allow me to live peacefully. it is so hard and tiring 😭 I feel you❤️:( every simple thing becomes a problem in my mind, behind every word, every action that he does towards other girls and his friends, there is something deeper and my mind processes so much and thinks the worst😩it's really hard but we have to get through this because it's our mind that change our reality🫶💗😩
@Anonymous Same here. I’ve been cheated on before too, so it seems impossible to not feel this way after the trauma of that
@Anonymous mhh i know it's hard especially if it happened before. now you have this feeling and you're afraid that will happen again. but people is not the same. I know now you have this trauma but try thinking positive, because if something bad happened in the past it doesn't mean it will happen again
@Anonymous Totally feel you ! But I know that not everyone who’s been cheated on ends up with those intrusive thoughts. Some people can think more flexibly, not just in black and white like I do sometimes... When something sets me off, my brain jumps to these wild, movie-like scenarios... I know it’s way too much ! but the feelings hit so hard that I just need to be reassured by my boyfriend :(
Thank you !!! Yes this is exactly what I'm experiencing 😭 And yes YES YES ! we have to get through this because it's our mind that change our reality !!! I feel you 🫶 Thanks for your answer 🙌
Yes, I have experienced this. It is very damaging :(
Thanks for your answer. Yes having intrusive thoughts about being betrayed is horrible. It happened only 2 times with my family, and I know I can trust them. I think it's the same thing with my partner I know I can trust him because he is always there for me. The intrusive thoughts are mainly present when I'm in a relationship. It can be triggered by my boyfriend being friendly with another friend or my friend being friendly with him and then the intrusive thoughts come in, does he prefer my friend ? Does my friend wants to be with him ? Are they having an affair ? I know it is not true. But it seems like a part of me believe it can be true, someday, somewhere... My brains goes too far, the distress is high, and I'm seeking reassuring by my boyfriend... It's horrible for both of us.
After we talk about it, I feel a lot better... I trust him. And then the intrusive thoughts come back a week, or two weeks after
Do any of you men have the kind of ROCD where your OCD makes you think your girlfriend might be doing something sexual with another man? The intrusive thoughts are torturous. It would be nice to know I’m not the only one who suffers like this.
anyone else have ROCD focused on their partner? like worrying their partner is going to leave/cheat or having paranoid thoughts about their partner? a lot of what I see about ROCD has to do with doubting your love for your partner (I've had that in a previous relationship so I know that blows) but just wanted to connect with people whose fears are focused more on their partner's feelings.
Does anyone else get ROCD thoughts surrounding possibly cheating on your partner? Mine focuses on other interactions with men other than my partner that may have been cheating. Even from years ago. And then i get the strong urge to confess to my partner even thought it’s almost embarrassing because these situations aren’t considered cheating by definition. Sometimes, I obsess on interactions that “could have” led to me cheating. Does anyone else experience this? I’m recently engaged, and it’s flared up since then. I’d love to know if anyone else deals with this and/or has any advice. Thanks!
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