Anyone have success stories? I’ve realized that I’ve let my ROCD win and have been giving in to compulsions and ruminating through my past three relationships and this one feels like the hardest theme so far.
Hey there! I continuously have to fight ROCD compulsions. Typically what helps is if I do the opposite of what the compulsion would be, and take stock of what is going on with me. If I want to try to see who he is texting, I look away and check in with myself. Am I lonely? Bored? Feeling a feeling of some kind? Then I take care of that feeling or express it.
@TJ2 Does that help to do the opposite?
@Honeyshark It does help. Because the opposite of the compulsion is usually way more in line with my moral values anyway. Ex., respecting someone’s privacy
@TJ2 - Ah good point. Thank you!
When my OCD started it impacted my relationship. We ended things. I moved across country. I decided that was silly. We tried to work on it from afar. I feel nervous a lot. My brain throws a lot at me about the relationship being dangerous. I don’t respond. We are in therapy to help with communication. And things are on track. I don’t know if the relationship will work and I don’t know if they will be ‘right’ for me. Occasionally I still do some checking behaviors but I seek to be able to break out, enjoy the day/conversation instead. I’m now nervous I won’t set a boundary when I need to or I’ll pick someone it won’t work out. That would be true no matter who I date. So because I greatly value dating and relationships, I am sticking to it (and learning a lot). This wasn’t my main theme, but a secondary one. I hope that helps.
Yes this helps so much. I feel like it's "dangerous" and I keep needing my partner to reassure me but that's pushing him away. I'm trying not to respond or demand answers/reassurance from him but I've been giving in to my compulsions a lot and we're fighting a lot because of it. My main theme was SOOCD so I get what you're saying. I'm nervous he'll betray me or break up with me but I know that's a risk in any romantic relationship. Thanks for taking the time to share!
@Honeyshark Yes, it’s a risk! But it’s worth it!
@ListenToTheWind It really is! I wish my OCD would STFU tho 😂😅
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Hi. I was recently diagnosed with ROCD by my therapist. Which is a relief, because I’ve been dealing with intrusive thoughts in all my relationships, but even though I was in therapy, I had never been diagnosed and I didn’t know if there was a name for what I was experiencing. So, we are barely starting to work on it. I’m recently married to a man that has only showed me I can trust him, he re assures me and respects me. But I still tend to have the need to make sure all the time he’s not cheating or lying, paying attention to every single detail. At the same time I have the fear that I’ll ruin my marriage with my obsessions. I don’t want him to know about the diagnosis, cause I feel he’s gonna get scared and run away. Has anyone here recovered from ROCD? How’s life on the other side?
Any success stories with ROCD and ERP? Would love some encouragement❤️
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