I obsess on being lonely all the time. I feel like I’ve always struggled with feeling alone my whole life. Idk if it’s because my parent took their life or what it is. But if I don’t have a best friend at any given time it makes me feel like something is wrong with me and I’ll be forever alone. I do have social connections I just always feel like I’m not part of the “IN” crowd. Not sure why.
I used to call 988 whenever I was having intrusive thoughts, but now I know that it’s just suicidal ocd, I’m trying to stop that habit. I do often feel lonely and I’m sorry for the pain you’ve experienced. Trauma can sometimes make us feel the need to be with other people and that’s understandable. I know after my car accident, I didn’t want to be alone, even at night. Hope this helps some!
@HopeM365 I’ve honestly called some of those help numbers before too 😭 I feel embarrassed every time. But I am healing from codependency so I think maybe healthier connections feel kinda weird to me. But also I’ve attracted a lot of bad friends in the past bc of my codependency but I really want to attract friends that feel more like family. I think I do have to learn to be comfortable in my own skin though.
I’m so sorry you feel like that way. Nothing’s wrong with you. You’re just a normal human that craves not to be alone and just do have something or someone by their side. & that’s okay too. at some point in life, someone will come in your life and fill in the gaps. also, the more you obsess on something, the more it’ll come back stronger. Stop, breathe for a moment and just let the thought be. No need to dwell on it. Sometimes the pain gets too much where you require the presence of someone & that’s understandable. I hope you get the help you need.🤍
@Anonymous813 Aw this is sweet, thank you for this comment. I definitely enjoy socializing but also just like to be in my own space a lot too. It’s the obsessions of loneliness that makes me want to socialize more than I actually desire. Loneliness is such a weird feeling I never really know why it’s there. Cause even when I’ve had some close best friends some of them just ended up being very toxic so I’d rather wait it out to find a trustworthy best friend
I felt this way growing up a lot too. And it still sometimes gets to me. But then I realized that those crowds are not what I want to be a part of. I realized I don’t value being popular, I just want a good couple of friends. I’ve also learned to be my own best friend and that’s helped me feel less alone.
@Cheddar Bob This is so true! the thing is I’ve been part of the crowds before and it’s not really as healthy or loving as it looks on social media. I rather focus on a few good healthy connections with trust and respect. Making friends with people who can’t offer that is actually quite easy but looking for valuable people has been a lot more challenging.
I cut my “best friend” off of 11 years this week. I have given her chance after chance to get better and she continued to treat me like shit. So I feel free from that, however my other best friend of 11 years stopped being friends with both me and the toxic friend just because I was still friends with her. I’m 20 and go to a community college and it’s been very hard for me to make friends even before the pandemic. I haven’t had any other friends outside them since hs and my hs friends honestly weren’t great to me either (we distanced, all of us) and of course I’ve looked at myself and considered myself to be the problem and blamed myself but even my therapist doesn’t think that’s true... but anyways. I’m here. Lonely af. Officially no friends. And the sad thing is I don’t know when I will have any. It could be months or years from now and I’m so focused on school... I have no idea if I will ever be happy with someone (like a vest or close friend) or even be in a relationship. Anyways this is what I’m going through and I’m feeling very alone
Feeling really alone. I feel like I’ve burned out my friends with my OCD so now when I have even a non OCD issue come up, they’re already starting off on an annoyed foot. Just feeling really alone and sad right now. My grandma was my best friend and she died in 2021 and I just have felt lost since. Like no one left on this earth really loves me
How do you all handle feelings of isolation? I feel so alone in this and I feel like I will never have a friend or partner that I can really truly talk about everything with.
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