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- bdstwin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- ryanp0333ryanp0333
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Well the best way to get over your fears is to face them or “accept” them. Tell yourself over and over again the worse possible outcome you could imagine. Yea the anxiety will suck at first but eventually your brain will get bored and no longer care to make you fearful of this. Also your OCD seems pretty mild considering the fact that you have worked yourself up to make plans, so just go out anyways and do something you typically enjoy to distract yourself.
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- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Sounds like you’re catasrophizing, which is a cognitive distortion. Challenge that distortion: is not wanting to hang out with you the only or most likely reason he hasn’t responded? What other (more neutral) reasons could there be? Could there be additional information that your unaware of that might explain things (like something else important coming up or getting sick)? What evidence do you have for each of the potential explanations you came up with? My guess is you have very little evidence for anything at this point. Then reframe the thought: “he hasn’t responded; there are many reasons I can think of to explain why he hasn’t, and some of them are negative. But I have no reason to believe a negative reason is any more likely than a neutral one.”
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- ChellieChellie
- Date posted
- 5y ago
No you don't. Be independent and make your own plans in case he does not react in time. And don't think you did something wrong, ignoring someone without a good reason is a dick move and if he did have a good reason... well no sweat.
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- himz333himz333
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Here is what WORKED for me: -Think of ur mind as a second person, as person who always with u, its not u but another person. -This way u know that ur mind is seperate from u. -Now just observe all the thoughts & emotions thrown at u by ur mind(the second person). -Do not fight or react, only observe, acknowledge and let the thoughts stay. -Now you can see that this person(ur mind) is mostly talking rubbish. - Then u can process the useful thoughts & ignore the useless thoughts.
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- Saraa
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Today my partner is being very distant, and i'm really scared that he want to leave me, or that he doesn't love me anymore, maby he found someone else. He told me that he studied (i didn't ask nothing) and now he is going to work. He bearly text me back, and never call. I already been in this situation and i always kept asking for reassurances. But at the end people always broke up with me; in the exact moment and I start to think that it is just me convincing myself. I always take that as a confirmation of my doubts. So now a part of me is screaming for help. Is this intuition or is just ocd? (In other words, things tomorrow can be better If I dump my thoughts or nothing will change so it is better to run away by myself today?) Anyway I'm really proud of myself; because although everything, I didn't ask confirmations or reassurances to him! I also kept my doubts for myself (and this app) BUT I DID NOT TELL NOTHING to my boyfriend. It is the fist day that I am able to do it!
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- Birdie11
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Hi all, I’m new here.
I’m new to the app. I’ve bene struggling with intrusive thoughts that my boyfriend will leave me. It leads me to contact him while he’s working and frantically calling him to get reassurance. I’m trying to manage my emotions but the thoughts are constantly there and he doesn’t give me the responses I’m looking for such as don’t worry I’m not. So I am in constant fear
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- Jesskil
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Help, distance from bf and now I think he’s terrib
Help, my new bf just went away for the weekend. We talked for hours yesterday, and today he texted me 7 hours ago. I haven’t heard from him since then. In these 7 hours my brain has gone from normal content about him— to my heart racing thinking about how we probably actually doesn’t even like me that much/maybe he’s cheating/he has all these character flaws I ignored beside/writing breakup texts to send because I can’t stand to see him tomorrow anymore. I can’t stand my brain!!! I can’t tell if these thoughts are real or just my nightly ruminations where I always think everyone hates me and is trying to leave me secretly.
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